Feeling low tonight -

[masma]

Why do 'Kids' (40 and 37) take the 'P'
Know you're all gonna say - because you let them, but.... How can I stop them without a bit row?

[ttfn]

Hello masma - that is probably why we love our pets so much. Cheer up and hug Coco ♥

[Mamyalynne]

Well I am quite lucky with my two (34 and 31) but I sometimes think they feel you have not kept up to speed with modern life, just stand your ground and never argue.

I obviously don't know the specifics of your case but good luck.

Mamya ♥

[masma]

She is indeed the one thing that is keeping me sane at the moment. A good walk in the cold frosty air is the only pleasure I'm having at the moment. Thanks for caring xxx

[ttfn]

Masma - they are still exactly that - children. They still have a lot to learn. For my money I would let them know how I feel, I wouldn't suffer in silence. Everyone has the right to their own opinion, but likewise, should realise what they say has an affect on others. There comes a time, imho, when children need to learn to give instead of take. If they want to be considered as adult they must behave the same way. Take care ♥

[Dris]

My sentiments ttfn (hope youre OK btw ♥).Just because you gave birth to them and brought them up doesnt give you a one way ticket to repect from them.Once they are adults they might not like you and you might not gel as adults.Im not a great believer in blood being stronger than water.My son hasnt spoken to me since the beginning of July -he asserted himself , I didnt like it and he didnt like me not backing down.Its not stalemate -its his choice.I dont lose sleep over it and havent shed a tear as I have devoted exactly half my life to him and I think thats ample.You can lead a horse to water etc.So dont lose sleep over it is my advice -just blank them when they try you on.

[Mamyalynne]

Dris I do agree, however it all depends on the situation which we have not been made aware of (rightly so) they may ask to borrow money for example , always answer as you see fit. Maybe excessive childminding or some such, some can forget you now have time to enjoy your own life but each individual case must be dealt with on merit.

Also as Dris says, stand your ground if you believe you are right.

[masma]

Thank you all for your replies - at heart they are good 'kids' and I know they wouldn't hurt me intentionally however... I know I'm too soft, I get upset at almost nothing. If I confront either of them I end up in tears which makes them cross. I guess I'm like most mum's and feel taken for granted.