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If your partner was to go away for a few days with a "mate"...
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would he ask you first if it's ok or would he just go whether it inconveniences you or not?
As you can guess the latter has happened to me.
OH has gone off with a mate for two days leaving me to look after dogs, children etc. He didn't even ask if it was ok or if I minded. Common curtesy I would have thought. I wouldn't dream of going away for a few days without asking if it was ok.
Am I over-reacting or not? TIA
As you can guess the latter has happened to me.
OH has gone off with a mate for two days leaving me to look after dogs, children etc. He didn't even ask if it was ok or if I minded. Common curtesy I would have thought. I wouldn't dream of going away for a few days without asking if it was ok.
Am I over-reacting or not? TIA
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Not overreacting at all. I don't mind my partner going off, and I go off occasionally (not so much these days for either of us) , but would always discuss it first to get approval.
Perhaps you should just do the same when he returns - book a short break somewhere luxurious and leave him with the kids and dogs!!
Perhaps you should just do the same when he returns - book a short break somewhere luxurious and leave him with the kids and dogs!!
I agree if you have kiddies and pets etc then it's obviously harder but surely the conversation goes something like 'I was thinking of going away with so and so on weekend of blah blah... have we got anything on then? what do you think?' or something along those lines. It's a conversation about logistics really as with anything. I think I'd be pretty cross if he just upped and went though!
Monday sounds like way too short notice. I used to give a month or so when I went off on my own; anything less than that and I'd always be prepared to cancel if it caused any inconvenience. The idea of just vanishing and leaving a note saying 'Gone to Hindu Kush, you'll have to do the school run' did not occur to me.
Well did you say about the dogs on Monday night? I think Monday night for the conversation isn't too hideous a time, especially if it's only just come up atlhough obviously more notice would be better. Why don't you suggest he comes up with a solution to the dog problem before he goes. Or do you just not want him to go period?
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