Lapdancing is it cheating??

[tinkerbell23]

Further to my thread
http://www.theanswerb...3.html#answer-7243162

Just had friend on phone again.

Would you class a visit to a lapdancing club & paying for a private session a dumpable offence? Or even cheating?

The guy in question was alone btw. Not in a group :0(

[friedgreentomato]

No its not cheating!!

Your friend needs to grow up a bit I'm afraid

[EvianBaby]

No. Not unless they end up boffing. It's no different to a female going to see a male stripper.

[Duncer]

Where do the boundaries blur though? Was there touching?

[vodkancoke]

I personally wouldn't class it as cheating because they haven't boffed.

[woofgang]

For me a decision to go alone ie premeditated would be a deal breaker. I wouldn't think of it as cheating, ie being unfaithful, but too crassly stupid for me to consider the person as an equal and therefore not partner material.

[Sqad]

\\\\\\ & paying for a private session \\\\\

;-)..............doesn't that give you a clue?

[rockyracoon]

Hmmm, the fact that he was alone would make me consider giving him the sack.

[excelsior-1]

if he went alone, rather than with a group, that suggests that he did not want her to know he went (unless he told her he was going - which i doubt).

so why did he go?

would he not be furious if she went alone to see naked male performers?

[Booldawg]

I think at that cost then lapdancing is as much a euphanism as 'thai massage'

[NoMercy]

Watching a stripper is one thing, paying for a private performance in a private room - the sum total of £240 - is quite another.

Either way, he doesn't sound like marriage material.

[MarkRae]

> It's no different to a female going to see a male stripper.

It's quite a lot different, IMO. This wasn't the equivalent of a group of women on a hen party going to see The Chippendales - it was a one-one-one.

[Sqad]

Booldawg.........LOL.

I cannot see the "big deal" really........so what if he is "charged " with cheating?

What is friend going to do ....dump him?

I think that the "friend" should grow up.

[Duncer]

That's a couple of good nights out!!!!

[tinkerbell23]

If you mean "friend" as in this might be me sqad its well known i am single.

The link to my prev question shows the problem being the private session.

Normal lapdancing to me isnt cheating AT ALL however £240 on private seassions is another thing.

Mostly all helpfull as usual. Thankyou x

[Sqad]

tinker.....no.....I didn't mean you.

[jno]

no idea if it was "cheating", but it's more a matter of why he'd pay quite a bit of money to go off and see, at the very least, a stripper, in private. I'd probably bite my lip and accept it if it was a stag do, same as a night with the Chippendales; but a private performance? Why was he there? What did he want?

Whether it's a dumpable offence is up to the offended party. Would you fancy continuing a relationship, maybe even marriage some day, with a guy who pays lapdancers? Or do you think it's something he'll grow out of?

[Mick-Talbot]

the sum total of £240 - is quite another.


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don't know where the 240 comes from but if he spent that he was doing more than watching.

[NoMercy]

Sqad, when are you going to start thinking like Modern man and not Ramapithicus?

The boyfriend needs to grow up. The friend needs to get rid.