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No Birthday Gift From My Boyfriend.
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Hi everyone,
Can I ask your opinion?
On Saturday it was my birthday (31st) and I did not receive a gift from my boyfriend of four and a half months. Am I right to feel a bit put out?
The night before my birthday he asked me what I wanted and I (feeling embarrassed to be put on the spot at such a late stage) said don't worry about it. On Saturday morning when I got back to my house there was a card from him which was nice.
I then went for lunch with my family and he joined us after. Still no gift, we went to the shops and got something nice to eat for dinner (we stayed in). We did pop by Neals Yard as he wanted to pick up some items and he did buy me some lavender oil after I said that I needed some. However, he carried the bag out of the shop and as far as I know that bag is still sitting in the hallway of his house.
So that was it...
I feel a bit ashamed to expect a gift but that's what people do isn't it? And even if you're not sure you buy flowers or chocolate. I don't doubt that my boyfriend loves me but how to communicate that he ballsed up this one? Or do I just let it go.
(For the record when it was his birthday a week after we first met I turned up at his party with a bottle of gift wrapped vintage port from Harvey Nichols. It's also not a money issue as he bought himself several other things whilst we were out shopping on Saturday and I know what's in his bank account)
Can I ask your opinion?
On Saturday it was my birthday (31st) and I did not receive a gift from my boyfriend of four and a half months. Am I right to feel a bit put out?
The night before my birthday he asked me what I wanted and I (feeling embarrassed to be put on the spot at such a late stage) said don't worry about it. On Saturday morning when I got back to my house there was a card from him which was nice.
I then went for lunch with my family and he joined us after. Still no gift, we went to the shops and got something nice to eat for dinner (we stayed in). We did pop by Neals Yard as he wanted to pick up some items and he did buy me some lavender oil after I said that I needed some. However, he carried the bag out of the shop and as far as I know that bag is still sitting in the hallway of his house.
So that was it...
I feel a bit ashamed to expect a gift but that's what people do isn't it? And even if you're not sure you buy flowers or chocolate. I don't doubt that my boyfriend loves me but how to communicate that he ballsed up this one? Or do I just let it go.
(For the record when it was his birthday a week after we first met I turned up at his party with a bottle of gift wrapped vintage port from Harvey Nichols. It's also not a money issue as he bought himself several other things whilst we were out shopping on Saturday and I know what's in his bank account)
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Let it go, and the next time you are a little shy to say what you would like, tell him to surprise you.
16:01 Mon 13th Oct 2014
>>> He asked what you wanted and you said don't worry.
Yes but the night before her birthday.
He sounds like the sort of man that does not understand or appreciate how important these sort of things are for women.
I regularly buy my wife flowers and gifts, even when it is not her birthday or any other particular event.
However my wife's sister's husband has never bought her flowers in the 15 years they have been married.
A year or so back it was mother's day and she made a comment that it would be nice if he bought some nice food from M&S and cooked it for her and the children.
He then said "does it have to be M&S food?", at which point he went and fell asleep on their bed and she never got her meal.
So she went to a Fish and Chip shop and came round to our house with the kids and ate it, leaving him on his own.
That was the last straw for her, and since then their marriage has gone from bad to worse and I think they may split up later this year.
So if your man is like that then you know what you have in store if you stay with him.
Yes but the night before her birthday.
He sounds like the sort of man that does not understand or appreciate how important these sort of things are for women.
I regularly buy my wife flowers and gifts, even when it is not her birthday or any other particular event.
However my wife's sister's husband has never bought her flowers in the 15 years they have been married.
A year or so back it was mother's day and she made a comment that it would be nice if he bought some nice food from M&S and cooked it for her and the children.
He then said "does it have to be M&S food?", at which point he went and fell asleep on their bed and she never got her meal.
So she went to a Fish and Chip shop and came round to our house with the kids and ate it, leaving him on his own.
That was the last straw for her, and since then their marriage has gone from bad to worse and I think they may split up later this year.
So if your man is like that then you know what you have in store if you stay with him.
Isn't it a bit strange that after 4 months into a relationship you know how much is in his Bank Account? Stranger still why would you want to know? Honestly, 'what would you like for your birthday' does not warrant a 'don't worry about it' answer. If there's a next time just say 'oh surprise me.' To be honest, no gift and no dinner out for your birthday (I bet you cooked did you?) he would be out on his ear.
