No Birthday Gift From My Boyfriend.

[sam100]

Hi everyone,

Can I ask your opinion?

On Saturday it was my birthday (31st) and I did not receive a gift from my boyfriend of four and a half months. Am I right to feel a bit put out?

The night before my birthday he asked me what I wanted and I (feeling embarrassed to be put on the spot at such a late stage) said don't worry about it. On Saturday morning when I got back to my house there was a card from him which was nice.

I then went for lunch with my family and he joined us after. Still no gift, we went to the shops and got something nice to eat for dinner (we stayed in). We did pop by Neals Yard as he wanted to pick up some items and he did buy me some lavender oil after I said that I needed some. However, he carried the bag out of the shop and as far as I know that bag is still sitting in the hallway of his house.

So that was it...

I feel a bit ashamed to expect a gift but that's what people do isn't it? And even if you're not sure you buy flowers or chocolate. I don't doubt that my boyfriend loves me but how to communicate that he ballsed up this one? Or do I just let it go.

(For the record when it was his birthday a week after we first met I turned up at his party with a bottle of gift wrapped vintage port from Harvey Nichols. It's also not a money issue as he bought himself several other things whilst we were out shopping on Saturday and I know what's in his bank account)

[Zeuhl]

/Mrs Zeuhl is a lucky lady/

that's debatable

but thanks anyway jno :-)

[fairycakes69]

Let it go, not everyone is into birthdays, he asked, you said not to worry about it, he did what you said. My hubby did the same to me, The following year he asked what I wanted, I told him and I got it. Some males don't think the same as women, it's just the way it is. We do like to confuse them and expect them to read our minds.

[Bazile]

Let it go, and the next time you are a little shy to say what you would like, tell him to surprise you

No - dont do that - he might suprise you with 2 bottles of lavender oil

[chaptazbru2]

I agree, the night before your b'day is too late to ask. Maybe he doesn't think b'days are all that important? I like gifts on b'days and at Christmas and I like to buy and give gifts too. Maybe you could sort this out by next year as you'll know him a lot better then ?

[Zeuhl]

Tell him you'd like a Double Entendre

He'll probably 'give you one'

:-)

[Mick-the-Miller]

Anyway, what did you need Lavender Oil for?

[pearlz42]

Like everyone else has pointed out he took it literally but its really up to you. If this is a real concern for you or a deal breaker you need to be upfront about it. An honest relationship is best. Although if you think you can let it pass, let it pass. Its up to you. I personally would be up front if it bothered you so much! Happy Birthday! xx

[Brinjal]

Be careful what you wish for. My husband was terrible would never get gifts as he didn't know what I wanted and I would say surprise me. So he started buying things that I hated so had to tell him no more surprises and then would tell him what I would like. These days it is simple gifts like a favorite perfume or dinner out. As you get older things become less important and it is just being remembered that counts