Why Does Everything To Do With Dating Have To Be So Complicated?

[tandh]

I met this guy the other week and he fixed a door for me which he didn't want to charge me for. Before he left he asked me out for a drink in a few days time. we had a lovely evening and he was such a gentleman too. we then took my dog for a walk the next day, and text everyday for the next couple of days. But then, long story short, i then started to think that he was married, and told him this which i think really insulted him, but i did justify why i thought this. It basically ended with me telling him not to contact me as i didn't want to develop feelings for a married man. Its been nearly two weeks since that and i can't stop thinking about him. I text him on monday saying that it was international batman day ( we had a joke about him being batman on the date) but he didn't reply. I feel so weird and sad and i don't know what to do because i am not sure if he's married so i don't know weather it's right to try to pursue him, and i also don't know if he really hates me for what i said.... oh

[ummmm]

Even if he isn't married I'd be wary of someone who gets arsey on the second date over a bit of foundation.

[rsvp]

tandh you seem to have good instincts - you've sussed something isn't right and I would run a mile if a man got XXX with me for such a minor thing as a bit of foundation on his clothes - how's he going to react when something serious happens? Really, you have good instincts......trust them and stay clear of this chappie, he sounds creepy. And yes, I think I have good instincts concerning people.

[tandh]

don't worry answer prancer... it was my fault any way.
Sorry, i don't think i worded the part about the foundation very well, he didn't get angry about the foundation, but he did let me know that he didn't want me to get it on his top.
Really rsvp? he can be so sweet though, and he got really nervous about asking me out for a drink which i really like as i think it shows he doesn't do it all the time.
he has just text me today, he didn't text back as he was in a different country, not sure what to do. Is it wrong to sleep with someone if you think he's married? based on what i said in my last post, do you think he could be or am i being silly?

[Bathsheba]

tandh, how's your blocked drain?

Baths
x x x

[tandh]

oh ... I haven't even got around to that, my sister came to visit and i haven't seen her for a couple of years so she's taken up a lot of my free time and i've been trying to sort out my outbuilding but i'm having a nightmare because i'm not strong enough to drill holes into concrete. water is going down it, but just not very quickly. I've been lucky that it hasn't been raining - but it will tomorrow, so keep an eye out for a post entitled help my drive way is flooded lol

[scorpiojo]

I wouldn't worry about a ring with diamonds in it, but what else made you think he was married? Get yourself an invite to his home....

[tandh]

really scorpiojo? that was the main reason why i thought he might be, i put all the other reasons in my post i posted at 2:30 on friday morning. I do understand a little about him not wanting people to know where he lives, i'm the same but maybe it's different as i am a lady living by herself.
I really feel like i want to sleep with him, it might also help me finger out if he's married as he may not call me again once he's got what he was after?
I

[scorpiojo]

Yes, I don't think diamonds mean it's new, but does it look new? Not sure why he wouldn't want you to know where he lives though ... :(

[ummmm]

You're still a stranger to him. Maybe he's had to deal with mad stalker women in the past.

Not saying you're a mad stalker woman...

[tandh]

lol @ mmmmmm, no i totally get it, i have been stalked before and it's not very nice. Oh no, i really thought they didn't put diamonds in mens wedding rings all that time ago. And thinking about it he didn't explicitly say that i can't know where he lives, i haven't asked or anything but i got the impression that if i did he would say no.
I think i've messed it up even more though as he's not texting me back, i only said i was sorry and that i miss him, but i think i've scared him off again :-(
I swear why is it when you meet someone you like they are never that into you, but you can't get rid of the people that you don't want to know?

[grasscarp]

I just read through your posts Tandh. I think your instinct that he is married is right. The ring, the texts that made him leave you, the not wanting you to know where he lives, being in a different country (really?) - Texts are receivable wherever you are, not wanting make up on his clothes. Men need to feel they are the hunter even when they are not. Whether you see him again will depend on him now. As for thinking you want to have a physical relationship with him soon. Nooooooo......

[tandh]

arrr, anyone that said they think he is married is right, He's got a profile picture on whats app were you could see his right hand with no ring. I know it's not concrete proof, but he said he wears it all the time, i bet it was on his other hand were the dam thing belonged. Thank you for all your advice, especially any one that said not to sleep with him and that i can do better. although i;m gutted that he is, i think i'm over it now