Boyfriend troubles

[Wonder Mom]

Before I get started with my question and this is for my daughter I know that someone is going to ask me to mind my own business but my daughter is the one talking to me about this. We talk about everything.
My question is this my daughter's boyfriend has been being hot and then cold with is feeling towards my daughter since Christmas. They have been on a break for about three weeks (he needs space) but nothing has changed as far as them acting like a couple. Friday night he talked for about three hours about their relationship and that he wanted them to basically get back together soon. He came and watched a movie at our house Saturday. Sunday, Monday he didn't call her at all so she called him Tuesday and he told her he needed space because he was confused about his feelings and that he would always love her and that they would get back together but it would be awhile. My daughter wants to know if you think he is cheating, stringing her along till he decides how he feels. Do you think she should move on and forget about him or what should she do.

[Greedyfly]

I think hes a teenage boy (I assume he is) who is confused - most of them are at some point or another. I would suggest although hard to just give him the space he obviously needs/wants and he will come back if and when he is ready. Keep pushing and you will push him away.

Hope it works out.

[suzie4U]

Hi Wonder Mom maybe she needs to spend more time on enjoying her self and not waste time on him how old is she? Try http://www.phpbbserver.com/froggersworld/portal.php?sid=cecc86155a771e8cd951f51586009dc8&mforum=froggersworld There is always someone to talk to

[undercovers]

i think he is probably sorting himself out with another girl to move on to but doesn't want to burn his bridges until he has somewhere else to go - men are just mean like that and especially so when young (sweeping generalisation i know but i think its mostly true).

I would suggest she toughen up a bit and stop waiting around for this chap to have his fun ... e.g. she needs to get out and have some fun of her own! (don't take him back you'll regret it in the long run)

[undercovers]

your q reminded me of the beautiful south song

http://www.pavilion.co.uk/users/bucko/time.htm

[Fat Boy]

If you aren't actually going out with each other at the moment, how could he be cheating on you?

I'm sorry, I mean, if they aren't actually going out with each other at the moment, how could he be cheating on your 'daughter'?

[Scarlett]

He sounds like he is calling all the shots with no thought for her. I think she needs to give him a reasonable deadline by which time, she should give up on him and move on. If they are young (18 or less?) the chances are they are indeed, too young to be "settled", and it is hardly surprising that he isn't quite ready to stay with one person yet.

Maybe she should just set him free. That usually does the trick. She should give him as much time and space as he wants- and leave him. This will, if nothing else, make him realise if he wants her or not. It does sound to me as though he has had enough of the relationship but is too spineless to finish with her. After all, he can still see her, come over, watch tv etc. But she can do better!

[Sozzie]

I agree with undercovers answer. I suggest she tries to forget about him and go and have fun with her mates.

[Suetheramble]

Get out there and enjoy life.Don't always be available,make arragements to go out with friends and don't cancel if or when he does phone.If I was her I slot him in at my convience and be around when he does "make up his mind"

[hannah333]

She should go out, have fun, and live her life without involving/calling/messaging him. If he truely likes her, he will come crawling. If he doesnt really give one about her, then at least she can hold her head up and she will have had fun in the meantime. Also, going on 'a break' in my opinion is never a good idea - it means one person wants to be alone, and the other person is left hanging on without any assurances that things will ever go right again. Tell her not to let him waste her valuble time like this, and to go out and find someone who wants to be with her all the time. Best of luck to her though, as that is easier said than done.

[alcantar408]

MOVE ON... If she stays with him this time she's gonna always think it's okay for men to treat her like that.. This will make her strong for her next relationship.. Why should he be the one to decided if he wants her now or later, She should be the one to decide whether she wants to put up with his butt or not.. If i were her I would leave. Guaranteed he will come crying back as soon as he knows she doesnt want him anymore.....