need advice please

[delph924]

do you think its ok to still have sex with an ex, who is still a good friend? im confused as i broke off the relationship for certain reasons a few months ago, but still kept in touch. i only see him once a week, as he lives a distance away. We are both single, and when we are together we have good fun and no arguments (which is great), But what will happen if one of us meet someone else, as i think i will lose a good friend if he does meet someone?

[chicklin]

When one of you (or both) meet someone else this will probably come to a natural conclusion.
But if you both still see each other, enjoy each others company and even share sex, what went so wrong that you ended the relationship? You sound as if you are happy for it to continue - indeed, I'd say it is continuing.
If he did meet someone you may not lose him as a friend but the friendship would have to be on a different footing. As things are now, a relationship with anyone else is doomed to failure. No girl would put up with him having an ex on the side.

[ummmm1]

Yep....It's better than doing it with a stranger

Enjoy.........

[AllyWally00]

I have sex with my ex. But if you are able to have sex without feeling anything for him then go for it girl. But it's hard for any woman to have sex with her ex without emotions being their.

[chicklin]

I agree with the ummmm & ally but the point I was trying to make was that apart from actually saying the words 'we're finished' - nothing else has changed. You're still playing the girlfriend role. So if you don't want him to think he's a free man and see him go off with someone else should the mood take him, surely you need to sort this out? Either you're together and other women are off limits or you're not and you'll have to deal with it if he finds someone else. By all means have sex with him as and when it suits you, but you don't sound too happy about the prospect of him finding someone else, so maybe you don't want him to be an ex?

[cherylh1]

I do it, and have been for the past few months. I'm not sure whether he is back with his ex though that is the problem! He has lied in the past and no doubt he is doing it again as they have a child together. The sex is good, it always has been. Until i find someone to have a proper relationship then he is always on hand. it's not good though i must admit because i still have very strong feelings for him

[delph924]

i must admit i do have feelings for him, i broke it of coz of the stupid arguments we used to have,we was together for only a few months, we kept in touch and at first we didnt do anything but as time as gone by we have got closer , i know it wouldnt work if we got back together and he would prob agree this works fine for us both but i know it cant go on forever as either of us want to be a bit on the side, if one of us did meet someone else then is likely we wouldnt see each other as he lives quite far away i dont want to lose him as a friend so dunno how we would work it