Lack of sex drive

[marryme]

My fiancee is on the pill. Our sex life used to be very active. Over the past few months her sexdrive has disappeared. What can I do to get her to be in the mood more often. I am very frustrated, as I wish to be intimate more often. I dont know if there are any vitamens to take.

[alijangra]

Have you talked to her about this? If so and she says there are no other issues then you may wish to rethink your contraception methods. Whatever you do, dont pressure her or make her feel she is letting you down because that will just make matters worse.

[WendyS]

Maybe the early excitement has just simply worn off. Women often have a lower sex drive than men and maybe it's nothing to do with the pill. Possibly it's unrealstic of you to expect that any sexual relationship will continue to proceed at the same frenetic pace that it did when it first started.

[alijangra]

Never understood that WendyS, been with my bf for 7 years and it is the same, if not better, than when we first got together. Why do people just accept it? They get lazy and stop trying. For someones sex drive to disappear over the course of a few months is not normal behaviour and indicates a problem. I honestly think that if I stopped trying and wouldnt have sex with my boyfriend, Im the one at fault and need to address the issue. They are not yet married and thier sex life is going down the pan and you suggest this is par for the course??

[snigsthecat]

Try reading the instructions in her pill packet for side effects as some types of pills have different side effects if low sex drive is one cause she is probably on the mini pill, try a combined pill or the injection if all else fails talk to the practice nurse and explain her situation. If this is getting her down as much as you there are other ways to please people untill you get it sorted, just remember she isnt doing it on purpose and she needs tons of affection and reassurance

[NORMANTHEDOG]

i would just go out and buy a blow up doll,and tell her when she gets in bed,its the dolls turn tonight

[ReinaLuna]

Like alijangra says, the best thing to do it's asking her if she has any issues in the moment. Sometimes a problem in your work, or a crisis in life, anything can put your libido down... even more being a woman with all these hormonal ups and downs we have!

Attention to the pill also, if you think she's diffrent since she started on it, maybe she's not noticing but it can change you, really. In my case it did, and I had to ask for another kind of pills. There are many options, so, don't worry about that. Just talk to her first and see what will be her reaction, the truth is always the best thing in any relationship.
Good luck and let us know of any progress.

[ReinaLuna]

And DON'T try the injection , it's like an avalanch of hormones on a woman, i don't know how can this method be still available is most of the doctors and people i know are totally against it...

[georgie115]

i went on the pill. it makes u not so aroused. well i found that. maybe it was just coincidence. on the instructions it can say you can get a lower sex drive i think... read the pill instructions. may try just using other contraception?

[georgie115]

maybe*

[StudentGal]

yeah, the pill kills my sex drive too

[charmed247]

I haven't found that the pill has decreased my sex drive...if anything it has increased it..I think it depends on the brand.. I had to try 7 different types before I found this one was the best and now I wouldn't give it up for love nor money!!!!