Would you wait?

[Kaylz1988]

Hello Abers! My mate has been offered to go work in Egypt for 6months. And she told her bloke about it, and he said he dont want her to go, but if she does he wouldn't wait for her.

I told her I can see what hes saying do you expect him to go 6months with out sex???

Just curious if any guys have an opinion on this??

[Sasha13]

I'm sure that you'll get answers from guys on here, but for now one from a girl... If he's not prepared to wait 6 months for her he obviously doesn't feel that strongly about her and she'd be better off without him. Better that she finds out now that he feels this way rather than in a few months or years time. 6 months without sex is not that long in the grand scheme of things when balanced with his girlfriend's happiness and there are ways he can, ahem, keep himself entertained. I think him giving her that ultimatum is an excuse and he's not really that 'into' her.

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah I agree, I suppose! Feel sorry for her though! :-(
Tru its only 6months... not a year or more!

[sam100]

i would go...i agree with the previous post!

[jno]

I agree with everyone. If he loved her he'd wait (or find a way to go with her or at least visit). This ultimatum suggests he only wants the sex, in which case she knows just where she stands - and can count herself lucky to have found out.

[tiny e.a]

All agreed, and I hope she goes anyway. I told my boyfriend I might go away for a year and he said I couldn't, so I laughed in his face and said, 'well I am', and so he said, 'oh, okay.' I think as log as you don't give in to demands people don't try and push it. Hope your friends boyfriend is the same.

[4getmenot]

if he loved her he would wait. 6 months is nothing and I'm sure we've all been that long without it, even if it was between the ages of 0 and 16 lol . But seriously if he isnt going to wait he's not really worth it is he. How long have they been together?

[4getmenot]

although I did ask my bloke if I was in an accident where it turned out I couldnt have sex would he still stay with me and he said no. Git!! lol

[Champagne]

ROFL @ 4get!! What would you answer have been if he'd asked you the same question?

I agree with all of the above. 6 months would be nothing for me for the right person. I'd go without for much longer! If I were your mate I'd wave 'bye-bye' to this guy.

[4getmenot]

well I might have had to by a rabbit :-)

[Kaylz1988]

They been together a year and a bit!

[Kaylz1988]

And I dunno if she'll go now. :-(

[4getmenot]

but then again if she loved him then she wouldnt go or make him wait. Does she really need to go

[Kaylz1988]

Well I think she should go. Shes still young, why should she put her dreams on hold for a bloke.

[tiny e.a]

I agree, he would only have to wait 6 months, if he couldn't do it and they broke up so be it. But if she didn't go and they broke up anyway later down the line she would always regret not going.

[Kaylz1988]

Yup... I say follow ur dreeeeeeeeeeams lol

[hawky204]

See my post 10/05/07... I went a year with sex only once with my wife (and then I didn't enjoy it & regretted it!) because I loved someone who had gone travelling for a year. If you love someone that much, sex with someone else is zero importance. I loved my soulmate so much i could make do 'on my own' rather than be with anyone else.

Hope that helps - appreciated your responses to me.

[~Wingnut~]

She should go!! If he can't wait 6 months then he doesn't love her. I would say to be given this oppourtunity he is selfish to expect her not to go just because he can't go without sex for 6 months. You could argue she is selfish for wanting to go but this isn't something that happens to everyone everyday!
If she decides to stay she will regret not going and their relationship will suffer, which I personally think is already happening as he has said he won't wait for her.

I think this is already the beginning of the end I'm afraid.

If she decides not to go then point her to this thread, hopefully it will make her change her mind.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, personally if my girlfriend said she was going away for 6 months to work in Egypt, i wouldnt wait for her.
I wouldnt hold anything against her, as she should follow her dreams.
But if she chose to go away and work, then i would come to the conclusion that she wasnt serious about a relationship in the first place...