Playing it cool...

[Rubyrose]

How do you do this without appearing to ignore someone?
If you have been talking to someone for weeks/months on end and are really friendly with them.. then when you suddenly decide to play it cool.. how do you do this?

I am trying it today... well.. from now on anyway! I want to be in control of the situation but when he keeps coming to chat to me, I can hardly ignore him! He has already given me half a cake today too!
I am trying to not look rude but at the moment things don't seem any different because we are chatting as normal!

[Katie~77]

Maybe she didn't flirt with them and that's why they are no longer keen!x

[fiest82]

Wow, lots of dullards in your company hmm ... even the hot girl isn't so hot, lol

[leewayne]

lol

[Rubyrose]

Perhaps.... They'd probably still 'do' her though! Well... they say they would but if push came to shove... I'm sure half of them would sh!t their pants or cream their pants before they got the chance! Lol

[fiest82]

Do you speak from personal experience rubes??

[cazzz1975]

she may be a nice person, maybe as she is new she has to come out of her shell a bit, bit of a shame she is regarded as a piece of meat but ho hum.

[Rubyrose]

Unfortunately Fiest... I don't! Lol.

Caz - You'd be suprised. The guys here are very tame and act like total gents but give them a beer or some more male company and they turn into pervs...but this happens all over the world. They all do it. Infact the most shocking thing about it, is women believeing that not all men do it.

Trust me.. read the book.. 'What men don't want women to know' by Smith and Doe!

[cazzz1975]

I know what men are like in sleazy mode, just felt that the new girl needs a chance given to her, she is probably aware that she has been "discussed" and is probably feeling a little timid (new job,surroundings,chance to make an impression)

she might blossom into a lovely girl when she settles in

[Rubyrose]

She has nothing to do with these guys anyway as she works in the office across the hall with a whole different group of lads.. Neither offices have much to do with eachother at all but I work for both and know both, being the receptionist! She would never know they had discussed her unless I told her! Or unless she logged on to AB! Lol

[fiest82]

ruby, i know men can be pervy, but you seem to thrive on any male attention so maybe you should heed your own advice :)

[cruella]

You know Ruby,
Following your thread tonight from Saturday, it seems that this guy loves the flattery more than you do.
What? Two women falling over him, You and his Wife. He is probably patting himself on the back at being that little bit older than you and still being able to attract the ladies.
Your office sounds like a typical large office where people try to liven up their work day.
Sounds like he is enjoying the attention from you and pushing you. He must be loving every minute of it.
Why not look for all his bad points, and try to sicken yourself of him. Hope tomorrow goes well for you!

[ermintrude35]

"She would never know they had discussed her unless I told her! Or unless she logged on to AB! Lol "


..I'm afraid to say it ,but they probably discuss you among themselves , and probably not in a very nice way either, be carefull Ruby, they are probably all laughing at you behind your back because thay all can see how much you like this bloke....

[cazzz1975]

I do agree with cruella, it does sound like he loves the attantion from you, therefore he flirts a bit to get more, sounds more like your massaging each others ego's than anything else.

Also ermintrude makes a good point, gossip goes the other way as well, watch your back, dont believe the so called friends (normally the biggest b*tch's)

[snapdarlich]

Och just go for it ruby....what does it matter, the sanctity of marriage anyway? As long as you have fun and get your rocks off...

It's not the first married man you've been involved with anyway is it? A few of the online guys on here have been involved...you begged me to help you one time to with another old friend of mine, cos he'd fallen asleep infront of the filth you two had been posting each other and you were scared his wife would see it before he did....shame she didn't, eh?

People can't keep their genitals to themselves these days. I used to be on AB a lot but it's full of paranoid horrible people who are out for themselves and to hurt others.

Ditch him. Shag him. Who cares really...you'll still be doing this with someone else in twenty years time and asking what you should do...

You know what you should really do?

Take a good long hard look at yourself in the mirror...ask yourself why you get involved with guys who are attached...I think they are as low as you are. So don't think I'm singling you out for attention. All scum together...water always finds its own surface. You're welcome for each other...

Your ex you used to talk about? ....he's well shot of you. Yuck.


Who'd have you? Not me... and that's the truth.

[fiest82]

hmmm.... that puts things in a brand new perspective, snapdarlich.....and here I was, falling for this act.

[cazzz1975]

who was the other man???

(yes I know im nosey)

[Rubyrose]

For starters Snappy... We used to be friends so where the f*ck did that come from as I ain't seen you in years!!!! Secondly nothing went on between me and Elvis!!!!! Nothing! And that so called convo that we didn't want his wife to see was purely because he didn't want his wife knowing he was chatting to a 21yr old (at the time, now 23) on msn! Even though we were just mates.. she wouldn't have approved and he wouldn't have been able to explain it without her thinking the worst! And I seem to remember at the time that you fully encouraged it! Someone has had their fingers burnt in the last few years!

I seem to remember you for all your faults too and that was uncalled for! Looks like a lot of respect has been lost now!


Anyway... He probably is lapping up the attention and maybe it is working both ways then as he gets what he wants and I get to flirt with him and feel good! Might as well leave it as it is then as I know nothing will happen... I am not going to let anything happen and if he is happy flirting and I am happy flirting then f*ck it! Might as well carry on as we are!

As for people talking about me behind my back... It doesn't bother me.. never has.. I always say.. If I am talking about someone then you can be sure as hell someone is chatting about me.. what makes me so special that I shouldn't be b!tched about? In fact, I'd feel more upset if I wasn't mentioned!

[Rubyrose]

All that said... and I know this is about to sound naive and bigheaded but I don't think they bitch about me... I don't deny some laddish banter gets thrown around and that but they are still my mates.. I am the only girl who gets invited to the boys night outs and we have such a laugh... NEVER anything sexual involved.. just mates. Infact I send an email out to about 7 of the guys today saying we should go out after the company picnic in a few weeks and they are up for it, so we shall! Also coz I am receptionist and the office is a bit clicky... I get invited to all the little social events outside work because I don't belong to an actual department! So I go to lunch with the girls, and go out with Finance on a Saturday etc.... It's nice. And for the last year they have been singing my praises... I am tempted to get some of them on here now!

[Mr.Nose]

milk

[radiogaga]

what would you feel rubyrose if you were married, pregnant and you found out your husband was flirting and going for lunch with the receptionist?
oh its ok its only flirting?, your a little selfish me thinks.