Im lonely.............

[Roy262]

As Ive written I'm lonely......
All i want is a partner to love ME am i asking 2 much ?

[innithou]

...reckon you have answered your own question!...........

[jno]

no, it's what everyone wants; bt this means there's a lot of competition. You'll have to go out looking, they're unlikely to fall into your lap

[geff_p]

Dear Roy,
bollocks.
regards,
Geoff

[unrulyjulie]

no youre not asking too much roy! never take less than what you are worth just for the sake of having someone around!!,
I think having someone to love you for who you are is paramount !
I want the same, who doesnt ?
dont be lonely though, make the most of the time you have for yourself, it does has its plus sides ya know! ;-) someone who loves you for you will come along when you're least expecting it.
good luck

[Roy262]

Many Thanks Julies
I have been taking second best and putting up with stuff which i wasn't happy with.
As i thought things might of got better..
Cheers julies x

[Louisa 69]

Hi roy, it's one of the worst feelings, feeling lonely. I was like that for a few years, but i kept my faith in myself and as julie says, someone will come along when you least expect it.
I found that being single was a learning curve for me, that has served me better in future relationships.
Good luck

[REDHEAD24]

roy , embrace being single i know i moan about it , but i have been single since october from the last rat and im making the most of it

i decieded to draw a bubble digram with my name in the middle and all the things in my life ie work - friends etc
b
when i split with him i had a few things in that bubble

now i have joined a dance class, joined a gym and met some new mates - basically insteadof foucusing on one person , kept busy and been pro active

sure we all get lonely sometimes , but u can be in a relationship and dreadfully lonely as i have found
make the most of it , make new friends , join a club and u will be suprised how much better u feel xx

[unrulyjulie]

oh roy, i know how that feels! second best is never good enough! you sound like a nice guy, stick with it and you''ll get there, as will i and numerous others who feel the same way you do X be happy and keep smiling

[Roy262]

Thanks again Julies
Your sweet and kind u know me as some 1 else but Ive signed in as Roy..
You have helped with your kind words
Many thanks xx

[webstar]

Hello Roy, so sorry to hear you are feeling like this and at this time of the year too. Christmas time for some people is the most beautiful time of year but for others it can be the saddest loneliest time. No you are not asking too much, I believe everyone deserves to be loved for who they are. You take care and remember although we don't know you, we will be thinking of you and wishing you well.

[Roy262]

Thanks for your kind words webstar..
People cope with things differently i know and i should pull myself together as there are people in worse positions.
With your words and Julies have made me smile xx

[unrulyjulie]

well chin up Roy262, whoever you are lol (you got me thinking now ) :-) i have an inkling but could be very wrong.usually am .
i always try and think about folks worse off than myself, in fact ive just read a post that makes you think.
loneliness isnt there forever, as i said, try and see the positive side to being alone. There is one although it doesnt always feel like it.
have a good christmas and look forward to what the new year has in store for you. It might hold something wonderful!

[123everton]

Redhead's given you the best answer, you've got to put yourself out there (force yourself if need be) otherwise you can fall into the realm of self fulfilling prophecies.
My ex walked out on me several years ago around this time of year (it was tough, not my fault, her racist family) but I had to pick myself up dust myself down and start all over again.
It's not easy I've suffered a variety of setbacks since, but I stuck at it and won through in the end.
To love someone you have to be willing to accept you may end up making a fool of yourself that's why it gets harder as you get older, life has a terrible tendency to corrupt one (if you allow it).
Make some new years resolutions along the lines of 1 No more unfair compromises. 2 Do things you enjoy.
Try getting involved with the local non-league football team or a charity, and above all else remember she may have suffered similar setbacks to yourself (but don't allow that to become an excuse for unreasonable behaviour), just relax, be patient and keep working at it eventually things will turn around. Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy.

[Roy262]

Many Thanks for your reply 123
I feel Ive had a lucky escape from my last ex things didn't add up with the money she was spending..
I was blinded by what i thought was love but deep down i know i was putting up with things for the sake of a bit of happiness
Ive learnt a lot from the experience and i have made myself some new year resolutions
Cheers Roy

[REDHEAD24]

roy

may i also suggest to u that u go to google and type in social groups in ur area,
and clubs to join it is a great way to meet people

im 24 and i have joined some social groups as i work with older people and a lot of my friends want to go to the same places

u would be suprised at who u meet
we all get hurt in life the thing is not to hold grudges and move on x

[Roy262]

Hi red
I hold know grudges against any of my ex,s even if they called it a day..
I was just a little taken back by my last one but as Ive done in the past i will pick my self up.
And as i always say her loss......
Many thanks redhead x

[REDHEAD24]

indeed roy , it is her loss as u seem to be a really nice guy the thing is get down ur libary get some self help books or start a new hobbymaking model boats ,carpentry , chess etc that will help u too

samaritans are inundated with calls at this time of year , as it is a low time of the year

but christmas is over now , get through new year and start again my friend x

[velvet lady]

u sound desperate!! get out and u will meet people

[Roy262]

I'm not desperate Velvet
I just want a bit of happiness i go out all the time and No I'm not a pi$$ head.

[Roy262]

Ive been told by many i am a good catch for any female but i seem to go for the nutters of this world.....