Ex Boyfriend

[sogudsam]

I ended my relationship one year ago and I cant get him out of my head.
I truly loved him and him me but there were things wrong that I felt I could not handle.
He always seemed to be greedy with his money towards me yet over the top with things for his teenage children.
We hardly went out and had diffrent tastes in entertainment and holidays.
He always had to have been or done more than anyone ie if you had a hole in the head his would be bigger.
Yet he was very affectionate and caring looking after me when I was ill.
Can anyone change?
He said I didnt talk to him about anything that could've been wrong. Thats because I dont like confrontation.
I fear its too late now as he never rang me nor me him after we broke up, only once.
I think his pride would stop him even wanting to talk about it.
I think I have loved him more than my husband of many years and other boyfriends.

[Petal~flower]

hi sogudsam, you have listed his faults, but at the end, put in the "well he was caring for me when I was ill" bit

When a relationship ends, we tend to suddenly remember all the good stuff, and the crap, is magically pushed to the back of our minds!!

You ended the relationship because it was not working, so really I would say, put it in the past. I know its difficult, as I have a struggle doing the same.

Try and move on hun,

Wishing you lots of luck x

[Velvetee]

Are you a Libran by any chance?

In his defence, if you didn't tell him you were unhappy about things, then how would he have know there was a problem. Communication in a relationship is vital, in order to iron out any difficulties and prevent them from arising again.

It sounds to me, maybe he has some insecurities, the fact that he constantly needs to reassure himself that he's better than or has done better than other people and I can understand how meaness with money is a trait you would find annoying.

If you really love each other, then surely it's worth talking things through to see if you can work things out. If you don't feel you can sort it out yourselves, then perhaps relationship counselling may help.

[sogudsam]

Thank you for your answers. And yes Velvetee I am a Libran, are you. I swing from one line of thought, positive, to another, negative, and never come up with a decision. It is torture. The indecisiveness.