too young or too old?

[kdawg]

I think i should know better but i guess i'm into deep to be objective. My previous relationshp lasted 5 years. We broke well because i felt we did not want the same things. She was 6 years my junior. A year on and I met a wonderful girl in the USA. Initially i was thinking 'shes way too young for me' but having hung out for two weeks solid thought ' perhaps not?' I've moved back to the UK. She is thinking of coming to live with me. I feel quite guilty about the age and to the point i am supressing the truth from friends. I love her but am so cofused. I am 32 , she is 22. I talked to her about kids and marriage as thats what i want in the next few years. She is ok with that. Am i being selfishly unfair to us both or should i just detach my brain from my heart for the chance of being with someone that makes me happy?

[sara3]

mischief, age/sex/do you have children?

[mischief121]

Obviously your a single parent who cant find a bloke i thing ive hit a sore subject with you(go on try to defend yourself now and say your happily married)ha ha

[pastafreak]

mischief-if a bloke-has just lost the sympathy of 90% of the female population.
wonder how he would feel if he had 'baggage'??

[mischief121]

Yes i have 3(of my own and been happily married for 16 years.

[mischief121]

Saras gone quiet gotcha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Velvetee]

Well only thing I would say, 10 years is not a big age difference, if she was 32 and you 42. Emotionally, she probably would have caught up with you and may want the same things.

However, 22 is quite different. At that age, most people are still finding their feet in life and looking to explore lots of new things, not necessarily settling down to marriage and children.

When I think about how I was at 22, the things I wanted then, are completely different to what I want now or even my general outlook on life. Saying that, everyone is different.

[sara3]

sorry mischief.. missed your reply!

so if (looking on the rather bleak side) you popped your clogs.. your lovely wife would then be unwanted forever because of her baggage? (ie, your lovely children!)

have I got that right? ;o)

[kdawg]

She can be immature at times, others not. I'm not after a 'barbie doll' at all. To be honest the thought of a girl with nothing to say is most unattractive to me. Baggage we are all laden with. Its a matter of that 'baggage' not being hidden away in the repository of the consciousness but being opened and explored with your loved one so that you no longer have to fear it. I am going to give it a go.