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too young or too old?
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I think i should know better but i guess i'm into deep to be objective. My previous relationshp lasted 5 years. We broke well because i felt we did not want the same things. She was 6 years my junior. A year on and I met a wonderful girl in the USA. Initially i was thinking 'shes way too young for me' but having hung out for two weeks solid thought ' perhaps not?' I've moved back to the UK. She is thinking of coming to live with me. I feel quite guilty about the age and to the point i am supressing the truth from friends. I love her but am so cofused. I am 32 , she is 22. I talked to her about kids and marriage as thats what i want in the next few years. She is ok with that. Am i being selfishly unfair to us both or should i just detach my brain from my heart for the chance of being with someone that makes me happy?
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she's not too young, you're not too old, but you are half a generation apart so you won't have quite the same life experiences - but since you come from different continents, that would be the case anyway. It probably means you'll have to work harder at the relationship than two people who grew up next door to each other, but hard work never hurt anyone. Go for it. If it doesn't work out it doesn't; but at least you'll have tried and won't be left wondering 'If only...'
I see no problem whatsoever..she's not too young,and you are not too old. If you are both adults,and have some idea of what you want from life....as individuals,and together.......then just have a happy life. Age shouldn't come into it. I know it is not as simple as that...but it should be
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The one thing I do think you should be careful about ,is moving in together too soon. It sounds as if you have not known each other too long...so I WOULD take that part of your relationship slowly.
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The one thing I do think you should be careful about ,is moving in together too soon. It sounds as if you have not known each other too long...so I WOULD take that part of your relationship slowly.
Does age really matter, within reason?
I am almost 6 years younger than my 1st husband, now divorced but lasted 20 odd years.
I am 10 years younger than my current (and last) husband and couldn't be happier.
I think the problem with no 1 was not the difference in ages but that when we met I was 13, still a child, and he was an adult (although I didn't see it like that at the time). I grew up; he stayed the same.
In your case kdawg, you are both adults. As long as beneath the sexual attraction you are each others best friend you have the makings of a good relationship.
I am almost 6 years younger than my 1st husband, now divorced but lasted 20 odd years.
I am 10 years younger than my current (and last) husband and couldn't be happier.
I think the problem with no 1 was not the difference in ages but that when we met I was 13, still a child, and he was an adult (although I didn't see it like that at the time). I grew up; he stayed the same.
In your case kdawg, you are both adults. As long as beneath the sexual attraction you are each others best friend you have the makings of a good relationship.
we initally spent 2 weeks together having met. since then we've spent a further 3 weeks together and since meeting september we are in touch on a daily basis, for severa hours. i brought up the topic because i informed her if this is to be a relationship that is going somewhere she should be aware of what i want in life. thanks for all you answers people. have put my mind at rest sort of, the rest is down to my reluctacncy to just let go, but i'm willing to try. thank you.
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