Am I being irritated over nothing?

[daisycup]

I've been seeing this guy for about 4.5 months now and he is beginning to irritate me. This may sound harsh but he tells me he loves/misses me about 50 times a day. Although I like being told I'm loved... this is too much. I'll leave his house and I receive a text 2 mins later saying he misses me. I get a text 7.45am each morning with the same sort of message "morning, love you, missed you" It's driving me nuts... but I feel if I'm out of order if I say its all too much. One day I received 15 texts all before 9am on the way to work - and some of the messages where like " just seen your mate walking her dog" AAUUURRRGGGHHHH... what do I say, what do I do? Constant texts/miss you/love you is driving me mad! I'm quite an independant person and like my own space and can't handle all this.

[Sachs]

Cut & run!

[sn�gged]

Change your mobile number...

[mrs_overall]

Tell him straight.

If that doesn't work...they say that Outer Mongolia is very pleasant at this time of year....

[4getmenot]

ok I;d be worried too, and I;d be watching my back if I dumped him

[Bbbananas]

A bit of an obsessive methinks.
I couldn't stand this smothering either - get out now would be my advice.

[MrBounty]

Bunny boiler alert!!

[Sachs]

May be that was harsh? Tell him it's all a bit much, see how he is from there on. But! It sounds like he can't really help himself? Aww :0(

[Lakitu]

Sorry daisy but I'm killing myself laughing here! Poor you!

May I ask what you replied when you received the text about your mate and dog??

[daisycup]

I've already had words that the constant texting is all too much, he has calmed down a bit but not a lot. The 7.45am texts are still going strong and if I don't reply within 20mins he calls to check I haven't overslept when really I'm running around the place coz I might miss my train. I can't bring up the constant love you, i feel mean.

[daisycup]

That's ok Lakitu, my friends have been the same. I lost my temper and called him to say I didn't need a running commentary of what he sees in the morning. The text before that was I'm going to buy a sausage sandwich for my breakfast???!!!!

[Sachs]

May be text him your thoughts & dont hold back. Might be easier to tell him how you feel by text? Tell him his smothering may end your relationship?

[Lakitu]

The tears are running down my face here, I'm so sorry!

The poor guy, he's just happy!

[Velvetee]

Well from speaking to female friends, it seems most want a man who treats them indifferently, shows them no affection or respect, then they spend the next 10 years moaning about how they wish he was different.

Obviously there needs to be a balance between obsessive love and indifference, but I think I would prefer to be doted on, than ignored and only called or texted when he want's a legover.

Maybe this man, has little else in his life, few friends etc and is so overwhelmed to have found you. I think you either need to sit him down and explain how his behaviour is stifling you or just end things and hope he doesn't become your stalker. It just sounds to me, like he's head over heel in love with you.

[ChuckFickens]

if he has calmed down a little it may be worth you mentioning it again so he fully gets the message, maybe pointing out that at 7:45am your kinda busy getting ready for work and perhaps he could leave it until later in the day.

if not change your number, plastic surgery and a relocation to another country would do it.

BTW your mate and their dog says hi, I've just seen them too.

[Jamie29]

I thought women preferred men to text all the bloody time. LMAO

[Lakitu]

Hmmm, I've just had a thought.

There's a scene in Bridget Jones 2, where she is leaving for work, having just left the delicious Mark Darcy, and she starts her text, he walks up behind her and says "I love you too".

Maybe you man thinks he's being all extra romantic?....though I don't see how telling you he's having a sausage buttie is romantic, but men are weird.

[daisycup]

ha ha Lakitu, you're funny and yes I remember that in Bridget Jones and that was romantic but when you receive that text every morning on the dot at 7.45am for the past 4 months I feel like screaming. He was late last week and I thought I would have a break but there it came... bing bong at 8.15... he just slept in.

[Nosha123]

I would find this all a bit terrifying!!! WHy on earth does he not have something else to do in his life.
If he is like this now imagine in 2 years time - imagine living together.. he'll never let you leave the house!

He could be on Crimewatch one day! Harsh I know and I dont mean to be mean but from a Psychology perspective - what is he actually trying to acheive from this behaviour....
Think about it long and hard....

[Lakitu]

Y'know, I think it is early signs of posessiveness.......


Was he annoyed you didn't show the same 'consideration' the day he slept in?

[daisycup]

To defend him slightly, he starts work at 7am most mornings so maybe he is a little bored or just like people say head of heels in love. I thought it was all sweet at first and the early morning texts started the moment we started dating but I thought aw..... then after a month it started to annoy me. If I don't say I love him back he gets upset but there is only so many times I can say it... after each text message he says he loves me.... I don't want to keep saying it all the time. I have a feeling this isn't going to work. :-(