Issues with my hubby.....!

[Lorzy Lor]

Hey all, hoping some one can help me here!!!! I have been married for 8 yrs to a lovely (but hard work) bloke, we have a two yr old, I stay at home to look after him. I used to work full time. I think I am slowly becoming insane!!!!

I love being with my little one, but feel I have no life, don't meet new people etc etc. My hubby doesn't sleep well, and often goes back downstairs or stays downstairs when i go up. It has come to my attention that my hubby watches porn on line and on his mobi with much more regularity than before, also, he is chatting to this girl from China on msn till like 4am rather often. (its friendly, quite flirty more from her side, she doesn't know I exist and he refers to my brother as his brother when telling her stuff�..)

We have had a brief chat about it, where I said it was a mate's problem and what does he think�.! Obvious I know! However, I need to know how to deal with this. I know the porn is inevitable, and I have to just deal with it, but how? I know most blokes watch it and it has no bearing on how he feels about me, but surely, it would appeal more to blokes to have sex with their partner instead of watching porn? or am i wrong? I'm attractive and slim��.!

Is my annoyance about these issues because I don't have enough to do other than looking after the little one, housework (bler bler bler) and have next to no contact with the opposite sex?

I don't really know what to do about it. It's really getting me down, and I feel like I should to stay up with him, to try and stop this communication with this girl and the porn thing. Ahhh, its doing my head in, I'm not as confident as I used to be, and feel down. I feel like he's rather chat to others than me. I know its my problem, and I need to change, but no matter what I tell myself (it doesn't matter, he's with me etc etc) my head just keeps on going over it again and again!

Please help!!!! How can I make

[alishalexy]

You definatly nip it in the bud, if he needs a chat there are loads of men on line in similar positons, but they always talk to women, why! Take it from someone who chatted to loads of men on line, he's looking for something to fill a void missing in his life excitement.
Ask him when you next do a nice tea for him and make sure your in a good mood would he like to carry on with the marriage or would he like a reasonable split etc.... use your words. If he wants to give it a go then its worth trying , if he hesitates then seems like he's wants a fresh new women. The whole point of this is to same you years of pain to follow if you stick it out.
When couples chat on line they tend to get drawn to one another and they wait for the right moment to do something about it. Make it clear you will never have a tempory split, if he goes its for good. Men have been known to have their flings/holiday romances and have every intention of returning saying sorry doing what ever it takes. These are pre-planned because we silly women always take them back. Don't fall for that one.