Insecurity.

[SC00BY]

Please read all of this before thinking i'm horrible.

I'm currently seeing someone who is 'large' They are really insecure about being so, and thinks that i'm going to 'run off' with someone slim.

The thing is I am really, really attracted to this person. And am completely in love. There is no way on earth that I'm going to cheat or run off with anyone, whether they be small, large or whatever.

Is there any way to reassure my partner that it's only them i'm interested in.

Thankyou

[Velvetee]

Well your partner will need to feel good about him/herself. There is nothing much you can do to make someone love themselves, if they are unhappy with their appearance and have low self esteem.

All you can do, is to keep reassuring him/her and keep confidence boosting.

[waterboatman]

You could suggest she tries to lose wieght if she is unhappy with her size. Her self esteem will grow and her anxiety will disappear. It's worth a go. Good luck.

[BagPussAA]

Please do not follow waterboatman's advice and suggest she loses weight as this will only make her feel worse. I am speaking from experience of being a large woman who is in a similar situation. I am massively insecure about myself and even though I know my husband loves me, I still get worried about him leaving me for a slimmer model. Little gestures work better for me than anything. Him buying me a small gift because he was thinking about me, a text at work to see how my day is going etc. means that I know he is thinking of me when I am not there. That makes me feel special. Most of all, just hang in there, she will start to become more secure in time.

[tattoomaster]

just tell her if you wanted a slim lady you would not be there & love her as much as you do sorry only my take on this hope it works out for you both x

[biggerlonger]

if your good looking then go and find a nice slim fit girl to love

[Ice.Maiden]

Which just proves that some folk who think they're nice looking, can be very shallow.