Affair with a married man/woman

[Miss Chief]

Do you think there are any circumstances under which the above is acceptable/excusable?

[ummmm]

It's not as simple as that Ankou. You can still love a partner and have an affair.

[Miss Chief]

Cazzz, only 2 people on here have said 'it's never acceptable/excusable' - everyone else has said 'it's not that black and white'

[Miss Chief]

3 now legend is god has posted.

[cazzz1975]

if you loved your partner you would not put them through that kind of pain ummm, you would try and work on what was wrong.

[legend-isgod]

Is it just me?

But wasn't there recently a run of
" i just wondered as i heard this in the pub , office , on the tube , on the bus "
questions exactly like this?


Yawwnnnnnnnnnn


Who was it again ?

Ummm im sure you were on one of the threads and commented on the factb the preson said they didnt havean opinion they were just asking out of interest.

damn

who was it again ????

[No,Knowledge]

booze?
is that an acceptable excuse?

[cazzz1975]

maybe so miss chief, if you are in a dead relationship with no kids I would rather leave than go behind their back, I like my relationships to be frank and honest, if they are not happy or I am not I would rather an amicable split than trying to screw someone on the side

[Miss Chief]

legend - I presume you're implying that the question directly relates to me and I just don't want to say.

Why would I, on an internet forum (where I'm totally anonymous and could reregister under a different username in 2 mins) say 'it's not about me' when actually it is about me????

[Ankou]

"You can still love a partner and have an affair."

i suppose there are circumstances where that might be excusable, such as a partner who is not physically able to have sex etc. its all circumstantial and the rights and wrongs would have to be dtermined for each individual case, i am not condoning it per se.

on the whole people have affairs because it is exciting and they feel they are lacking that at home and won;t get caught out. they have no intention of leaving their partner. is that excusable?

[legend-isgod]

no excuse


you may regret it because you were drunk

but still inexcusable

ive been drunker than oliver reed at a free booze testing session.

but i havent been unfaithful.


some people have standards others let their standards drop as quick as their pants.


thats the difference between caring about someone and only caring about yourself.

No excuses.
And btw once a cheat always a cheat, without a doubt.

[cazzz1975]

to avoid the answers being directed to you instead of general opinions?

[Miss Chief]

Huh?? But if it was me and I posted a question like above, the answers would be totally irrelevant!!

Besides, surely I'd have put a bit more background information in to begin with??

[cazzz1975]

so misschief do you think an affair with a married man/woman can be acceptable/excusable?

[joggerjayne]

Leggy ... "drunker than Oliver Reed" ?

Holy crap !!!

But I agree ... there are no excuses. It's a beastly and horrid thing to do to someone about whom you are supposed to care.

[legend-isgod]

miss chief i have no idea who you are , who you want people to think you are , or what sort of person you are.

Unless you think an affairs ok , then i think youre ultimately untrustworthy by your own admission.

If someone would cheat on their partner and someone they profess to love then ultimately they are a dishonest person at heart.
they can excuse any wrong doing.therefore why should they be honest elsewhere when they see the benefits of dishonesty?


so no i wouldnt trust a cheater in any walk of life.

if theyll betray their partners theyd betray you in a heartbeat.

[Ankou]

thats not entirely true legendis. i have cheated on previous partners, often. but i have beeen with my woman for over 7 years now and never even thought about it, and have no intention of starting.

[No,Knowledge]

ok then what if Jenny Aniston knocked on my door right now and said "hello big boy have you any idea how long i dreamed of this moment"


would that be acceptable?

[Ankou]

no, calling you big boy and dreaming about you is not acceptable. unless you is phaaat.

[legend-isgod]

single ?
yes


but then thats as likely as you knocking off dot hawkes behind the missus back

isnt it ?



Ankou not as yet , but then theres always tomorrow.
a cheater is like an alcoholic.i mean a reall alcoholics anonymous .reformed they say im an alcoholice BUT i havent had a drink for 10 years.they realise that theyve been there done it and are only one drink away.a cheater is the same.given the right circumstances they can concoct a good enough reason.
well they did before .

is anyone vain enough to think they can reform someone that they cheated with ?

surely noone sthat stupid ?

[joggerjayne]

No,Kno ...

JA's not all that.

Now if it was Tyra Banks, or Heidi Klum, then ...

... No, No ... it's still wrong !!