when anger takes over an argument....

[Lorzy Lor]

ok, so had it out with the hubby. but now we're in a nightmare situation! He accepts no responciblity, and says he's done nothing wrong, however he has and i dont get why he doesnt understand my view.

anger has taken over and we're just snipe-ing at eachother, saying things in an angry way, not allowing the other to spk, being nasty. you know.

how can we bring it back to base? should i write him a letter? I'm just soooooo frigging mad! I feel like i'm burning up inside!

[Lorzy Lor]

obviously not emailing him now, i'll send it tomorrow

[ummmm]

I don't mean to sound like sqad but....

Lorzy, you don't trust him. You have to decide...can you live like this and pretend nothing has happened, or get over what has and forgive..... or have you got the bottle to leave?


It's one or the other.

[pinktwink]

Sorry to say but you kind of set him up by asking a question four times when you knew the answer. Best to be upfront. Can u email or txt him in a calm unemotional manner. Best to break the ice before the children get upset by their parents not talking. Hope you have plenty of support

[ICEDEMON]

but where is tention ummmm???

[Lorzy Lor]

i only knew the last time i asked him.

[Lorzy Lor]

i know i have to choose, but its such a big desision. should this really be the last chance, like i said the last time.
On the other hand, i'll be breaking up our family, who knows what kind of effect that'll have on the little one.

i really dont know what to do, i really dont,

going to sleep on it

[pinktwink]

Think you need to think long and hard what you want and what's best for you and then fir you and your children. You deserve to be happy . Good luck

[Lorzy Lor]

thank you for listening and replying! sorry to go on a bit! :(

lorzy

[ummmm]

Your little one will be fine....they adapt very easily so think about you....

[pinktwink]

lor its better for a child to grow up in a single secure loving environment than with both parents who are constantly arguing. You need to do whats best for you

[lil75]

They wasnt in contact cos she hadnt answered, and what would have happened if she had of answered. He may be the most loving and caring man when hes with you, but unfortunately it sounds like hes like it with the other ladies as well when out playing the single guy, Im sorry if it hurts you to read this, but im trying to be honest with you. You sound like a devoted, caring wife and mother, and you dont deserve this, you should ask him how he would feel if it was the other way round. It sounds as if the trust has gone, wether or not you can rebuild it or put your faith back in him and hope he behaves in purely up to you, what is our gut instint telling you to do, only you know deep down what the answer is, and whatever conclusion you come to, good luck

[mrrand]

Are you happy he's emailing another women? Obviously not .He said she didn't answer but next time perhaps another woman will respond and what then?

Sorry to say but I don't think his heart is in this relationship. I would never dream of acting in this way, my wife and children come first.

Whatever your heart tells you to do is not always the best plan to follow , but think long and hard.If you stay with him and history repeats itself you could be back at square one 10 years down the line.

Not an easy decision to make.

Mike