trust

[zzxxee]

if the trust in a relasionship has been dented regarding fedelity do you think it can ever be repaired???? even if the event happened 3 years ago but it eats away at you??? but you love this person sooooo much it hurts???

[zzxxee]

im so confused at the moment its driveing me mad

[Legalyblond2]

No cant be repaired.

Cant evr be trusted again.

Done it once THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN



JUST REALISE THAT AND GET ON WITH LIFE



DONT TRUST THEM !!

[PeeBee1]

Arh zzxxee, for me years ago i carried on with the relationship but kept eating away to a point where i hated him. But i do no sum1 who keeps going with her husband after he cheated & she is fine, so all depends on the person. If i was in that position again he would be outy, would never put up with it again, but im a different person now.

Sorry you are going through this. xx

[PeeBee1]

Wheres Leggy's post disappeared too lol!!!

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''if the trust in a relasionship has been dented regarding fedelity do you think it can ever be repaired?''

In my opionion, no.

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^ ''opionion'' wtf?

My spelling is as bad as yours today zzxxee ;-)

[ParaLEGGal]

Simply put he cant be trusted.

HE WILL DO IT AGAIN



Once you realise that you just have to accept it and get on with life.

Whatever made a person roam will stilll be in them.They will roam again given the chance.Only next time they will be more devious and wont be so easy to catch.

???d t h???

[PeeBee1]

Are you having onions for lunch by any chance Snags lol

[ParaLEGGal]

Obviously this is my personal opinion and not my professional one as a lawyer : o)

[zzxxee]

it wasnt really an affair he was workin on the doors in a friends pub at the time and this girls mother was dying of cancer the same time my other halfs mum had terminal lung cancer and they seemed to connect they used to text each other and have late drinks. he swore he never kissed or slept with her but said there was an attraction . i put this to the back burner as when our relasionshipo is good he treats me like a queen.. but it has made me suspicious i keep checking his phone ect

[Sqad]

zzxxee..C'mon, infidelity is a human failing from which we are all afflicted.

You won't forget, but you will forgive.

Look at his positive points not his weaknesses.

OR.
Go to RELATE.(tongue in cheek)

P.S...zzxxee....what has he supposed to have done?

[zzxxee]

*relasionship

[PeeBee1]

Did he tell you this himself or did you find the txts??

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''but it has made me suspicious i keep checking his phone ect ''

You've just answered your own question...



PeeBee... no sadly... just my sh1t spelling ;-)

[zzxxee]

this all happened 3 years ago but he has started takeing his phone everywhere with him even when he goes to the toiklet, i admit im not the easiest of people to live with i am a very jelous person but its so hard to trust.. MY ex used to hit me a lot and had countless affairs and i thought id met mr right with this one but my old feeling about not trusting are happening again

[zzxxee]

i found the texts on a secret phone he had

[ParaLEGGal]

but a sim card reader

it can read deleted texts
i saw a link on here the other day


he may not have got up to anything
then again
he would say that anyway

[ParaLEGGal]

his phone will be on vibrate


no doubt about it hes messing around

id bet money on it

snags any opinions?or inspector squid???

[sn�gs]

I've already given my onion...

[cazzz1975]

well it sounds dubious, but you need to address your feelings of insecurity and the reasons that you are hard to live with. I would imagine given your previous baggage that he has probably had a hard time living with you, if you do not address it this could be the pattern of furture relationships to come