I Fancy a girl but...

[kammalla]

Relationship advice anyone?

I've got my eye on a girl wher I work but I know her only as an aquaintance (I know my spelling isn't great). I haven't said a great deal to her personally but have laughed and joked with the people in her office including her. I've seen things on the 'net and occasional newspaper or magazine article that say 'if a girl does this she fancies you' and I know she has done it. Played with her hair with one finger, looking at me then looking away shyly when I look at her, all that kind of thing.

I'm just not very - well alright not any - good when it comes to asking people out and that sort of thing, I'm very very shy. I need advice (be yourself whilst well intentioned is not helpful).

Help!

[Dunloptyre]

first of all breath you seem to be working yourself up over this.

Don't worry too much about seeming shy, it's better than being smarmy and fake. Try to chat with her a couple of times before you ask her out, to find out what she's interested in.

Find some conversation starters by watching TV or reading newspapers. Ask her some questions like what music she's interested in but don't bombard her with them.

Think of ideas for your first date before you ask her out. Don't plan anything too complicated. The purpose of the first date is to spend time together and focus on each other.

Ask her out when she's not busy and when there's no one else around. Remember the more attention you're paying her, the less you'll focus on your own nervousness. Take a few deep breaths. Oxygen will help your thinking and keep you calm. Finally, gather all your courage and confidence and go for it.

[Sqad]

"Oxygen will help your thinking and keep you calm."

Bl00dy hell, seeing you walk towards her with an oxygen mask on would put her off....not a good idea.

drontal....yes, it would be a good idea.

[Dunloptyre]

No it wouldn't it will make her concerned for him.

whats drontal?

sqad your enough to frighten any woman.too full on..

[TTG]

Make sure there is just the two of you around and ask her how her weekend went or what she has planned at the weekend. Maybe suggest a lunchtime coffee somewhere.