What is it with men???

[Redrum]

Im not having much luck at all in the dating game presently. All I do is meet weird guys! Why do strange guys insist of sending me naked photos of themselves ? I dont get it, why send offensive photos to someone they dont know ? Any potential dates I meet just want no strings sex and I have really had enough now...

[Androcles]

Redrum

I really think you may want to re-read your last sentence!

Seriously, what are these guys getting that leads them to you? Maybe what is being sent to them about youmakes them think this is an appropriate response, as well as some of them being wierdo's. I am going on your choice of avatar for starters which hardly suggests a girl who is interested in intellectual debates, so if what is going out is similar, I would not be surprised at the response you are getting.

[Redrum]

so what has my avatar got to do with this ? That is like saying a girl who wears short skirts is asking for it ...not a good answer IMHO.

[boxtops]

where are you going to meet these guys, redrum?

[cazzz1975]

I can see what androcles is trying to say, the avatar suggests a femme fetale which can be misconstrued by some, maybe its the venues you go to or the type of dating site you have joined?

There are nice guys out there

[Redrum]

Im not going anywhere, lol its from a dating site and I have standards, these sites just seem full of weird men who think all us girls want is a good seeing to lol - i just want to meet a decent guy which seems so difficult.

[ummmm]

There are some very nice guys out there...you're in the wrong place.

[Redrum]

my avatar is a cartoon for heavens sake !

[Redrum]

Thank you Ummmm, a sensible answer.

[boxtops]

Why don't you meet real men, don't do it on-line? My sister tried on-line for a bit and everyone she met seemed to have some sorts of hang-ups (or family, one bloke brought his mum with him). Join a few clubs or start going to a class, you meet ordinary guys that way who have a bit more to life that their fancy bits.

[Androcles]

Redrum,

You may not think it is a good answer, but this is not about you directly, but the perception of you that others may interpret, form the signals you give out. What other information do thye have about the sort of lady you are?

If you go to a shop, say Lidl, which works on a keep it basic and simple philosophy, you are not going to expect the same goods as if you went to Harrods, and everything looks very well displayed (and expensive).

You may not like it, but that is how the world is!

[cazzz1975]

I agree with boxtops, there are loads of men you can meet by joining clubs ect

[Redrum]

Androcles, you made reference to the sort of person i am by a silly avatar cartoon! How else is someone to take that comment ?

[China Doll]

I agree with Androcles actually.... Sometimes you get out what you put in... Maybe not worry about dating as much as meeting new people in the future.

[cazzz1975]

I agree with androcles, when you know ziltch about a person you make your first judgement on their appearance or how they want to be seen by others via an avatar.

it may be a cartoon but some people will form a judgement based on the avatar you have chosen to represent you.

[ummmm]

Is that a lego person cazzzzzz??

[Redrum]

Sorry but Im not that shallow to judge someone on whatever avatar they have! Utter madness. lol....its laughable.

[cazzz1975]

it was, I have put my mug in for now if you press ctrl f5

[cazzz1975]

you may not red, but others do, laughable or not.

[Eve]

I'd recommend trying to meet men socially as well, why not look into local social or interest groups so you can meet guys you have something in common qith and get to know them gradually in a less pressurised environment?

Finding a new group of friends or hobby might also take your mind off meeting men and chances are one will then appear when you least expect it.

Alternatively maybe change dating site to a more highbrow relationship based one and make it clear on your profile that you are not looking for just sex. The ones you pay more for usually tend to have a more relationship based class of men I find as they are paying for it whereas there are plenty of other sites they can go on to find no strings sex.

I did some internet dating a while back and went on a load of lovely dates with some lovely guys. You will always get the ones just after one thing but just ignore them and move on.

[Redrum]

anyhow, i dont have a picture of Jessica Rabbit on a dating site.....