how to let him know i want more

[5924]

my and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 month and like he hasnt kissed or held my hand yet, we're too nervous to make a first move. i just dont know what to do, im 16 and im female lol if it wasnt obvious

[boxtops]

Perhaps he's not ready yet - there is no timescale. Don't be fooled by what other girls might be telling you. You'll know when you are ready.

[4getmenot]

same as what we all said the other night x

[5924]

lol i was thinking of inviting him over for a film or something lol after school or something hahaa lol cuddling up watching a film hahaha we're both not into romance films lol so i really woudnt know what to have unless horror haha lol IM SCARED HUG MEE

[Leapers]

I had a similar problem but we both wanted more but neither of us would make the first move, in the end it just happened and has got better over time, things happen at their own pace depending on the people involved!
You want to watch a film what about a comedy? why does it have to be romance or horror just so you can cuddle up, surely if neither of you like either genre of film then pick a film you both like it would be more enjoyable laughing uncontrollable all over each other!?

[Prudie]

You have had 106 answers on this exact question from Friday, why are you asking again?

[5924]

i thought there might have been diffrent people on during the day than ta night when i posted the other question

[poodicat]

Boring

[5924]

so what you all think im a wierdo now, im not seriously i was just wondering if there was diffrent people on in the day than night why do i feel like im being insulted here

[Eve]

How about a local dance class of something like salsa where there has to be physical contact?

Might not seem the coolest thing to do at your age though and if he is shy he might not be up for it.

Just something where you can both get used to non threatening physical contact in a less intimidating way.

Little gestures could make you both feel more at ease as well, light touches on his arm or hand when you are talking to him etc... just gentle hints you are comfortable touching him, leaning towards him, turning your body towards him, generally being closer in proximity to him etc...

[andy-hughes]

Take it steady, and learn to read the body language.

When you are walking, slip your hand into his. If he grasps it, fine, if not, slip it away again - no harm done, no dignity lost.

A great way to guage if a kiss is appropriate is to try this -

when you part for the evening, stand close and look into his eyes. Move your mouth towards his, and see if he responds. if he does, place your lips against his, and press very gently - if he responds, great, if not, he may be shy, but you have let him know it;s what you would like.

If when you move towards him, he either turns away or backs off, simply move away from his mouth and kiss him gently on the cheek. Again, dignity intact, no awkwardness, no difficult 'conversations'.

My guess is he will respond, and be grateful that you have taken the lead. A lot of guys simply don't know how to read signals, so they need a bit of guidance.

Let us know how you get on.

[zzxxee]

awww bless you andy you have been giving out some great advice today x

[andy-hughes]

Thanks!!

[Davethedog]

Andy good one one point "A lot of guys" think its all mate though you may be the exception :-)

[Sqad]

It's almost certainly a "windup"

[sandyRoe]

Be content with what you've got. Look at the trouble Oliver Twist got himself into asking for 'More'.

[redman41]

How can you ask for more, you haven't had any yet. When he slaps it in your hand hopefully you will know what to do ! :-)

[trt]

Maybe he is gay and he thinks you are a lesbian!