sexuality?

[sad old git]

Hi. A " discussion"started between two friends of mine about homosexuality.One said that the gene is in there when you are born and comes out in later years. My other friend who is a retired psychiartry ( spelling) nurse argues that it is all in the mind and as was said earlier not in the genes. I tend to agree with my friend about it being your genes but would appreciate any answers

[my4ds]

i personaly think its in your genes and your friend who is a psyciatric nurse needs to get another job(i know she retired)(figure of speech).if she is correct which shes not that would mean that what they used to do with the electrice shock and all that would make them straight.and that to me is botox.

[johnny.5]

i tend to agree
it could be in our genes all of ours
but homosexuality is a life style choice same as bi sexuality and polygamy

[China Doll]

I think it's something you're born with, I don't think any sane person would actively chose to be gay purely for the fact that other people make life so much more difficult for them although God knows why people do that. I couldn't chose to be attracted to women any more that I can govern the fact that I am and always have been attracted to men. It's just the way I was cut.

That said... I could be up for a wee kiss from Pink....

[Greedyfly]

I knew from a very young age which ways I swung, must have been born that way. You don't decide you are straight, gay or bi - what a ridiculous idea.

[jake-the-peg]

It doesn't have to be either.

It could just be a common "mutation" these can happen at random or it could be a matter of both.

I'm pretty sure nobody has yet identified a "gay gene" but I doubt that it's all in the mind as it seems to show up in pretty much all cultures as well as in animal behaviour.

http://en.wikipedia.o...l_behavior_in_animals

[jno]

Nobody knows, yet. It's hardly a 'choice' - you don't choose who you're sexually attracted to. It might be something to do with the way you're brought up, the 'My mother made me a homosexual'* approach. It might be in the genes, though gays are a bit uncomfortable with this since it implies that some day parents will be able to manipulate genes before birth and eliminate gayness altogether.

*Correct response is 'If I got her the wool, would she make me one too?'

[Old_Geezer]

I suspect there are both genetic and environmental factors involved. But of course it isn't a conscious decision, you feel what you feel. It only involves a conscious decision if deciding whether to suppress your feelings or not.

[jackthehat]

The search for the 'Gay Gene' continues and it is by no means certain that it exists.

However, what IS certain is that I was born this way; it is not some sort of 'fashion-statement', 'life-style choice' or attention-seeking stance I have adopted.
It is only 'in my mind' to the extent that it is a fundemental part of the fabric of my mind.

[B00]

Jack did you or do you ever look at a man and think "corrrrrr, give me some of that!"..?

[rowanwitch]

The research that initially indicated a gay gene has not been proven but there is a theory about levels of hormones during gestation having some impact. Twins studies however indicate there is a degree of randomness to it and no one thing seems to trigger it My feeling it is just one end of a spectrum of behaviour with totally straight at one end and totally gay at the other with a smattering of not bothered Bi s in the middle

[jackthehat]

There are men I find extremely physically attractive............I just know that I don't want them fiddling with my girdle...........:o)

[jno]

and the not interesteds at one end or the other

[ummmm]

There are some women I find really attractive....I'd never be tempted do any naughties though.

[joeluke]

Definitely in the jeans

[LoftyLottie]

I think back to being 12/13 when boys became more than bearable and the crushes started. Back in the 50's being gay wasn't talked about in front of kids and quite honestly I doubt at that age whether I even knew about it! All I know is that feeling sexually attracted to boys came very, very naturally, there was no other way to go. I can look at other women and think they are gorgeous and sexy, but have no inclinations towards physical contact with them.

I think it is genetic but there is far more curiousity around these days to try out other options and generally it is accepted.
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[B00]

Ahhh right gotcha Jack.

Guess its exactly the same as the other way round. I could look at other woman and appreciate that she's physically attractive, but the thought of getting physical with her would be alien to me and frankly never enter my head.

[redman41]

I find Women too attractive to ever contemplate having sex with a Man and that includes Lesbians (Look but do not touch)......

[LoftyLottie]

Is there such a thing as being totally straight or totally gay? I think not actually. I think people (generally blokes) who are very anti gay and proclaim that they are totally straight protest too much through fear.

[LoftyLottie]

Us Ladies all seem to think alike!

[redman41]

Contemplating sex with a Man would be totally abhorrent to me. Mind you I have had the opportunity and offers but that is as far as it gets. Mind consider it if Men grew Lady Veg ! :-0