Single, upset and wanting advice . . .

[dollypins]

Further to my previous post, I have now finished with my boyfriend. I told him that I needed space and wanted to spend more time with friends/going out. However, his father keeps texting me, wanting to meet up. I know I shouldn't but I really want to. I have never felt so turned on as the day he kissed me and I know I want to do more than that. Yes, I know he's a married man etc. So far, I've declined which is making him text me even more.
I am still upset about finishing with my bf but I think it was for the best. Just feeling confused at the moment. Any advice would be good. I can't speak to anyone about this. Thank you

[ummmm]

Does your ex have any siblings?

[cazzz1975]

you want this because he is persuing you so much and you are flattered at the attention, you need to take youself away from this environment so you can think rationally and are not listening to emotional blackmail or smaltz to sucker you in.

what a nice man he is to hit on his sons girlfriend whilst still married...

[carmalee]

dollypins - you are going to need to be a lot tougher than you are if you are going to start an affair with a married man. you know it's wrong and are perhaps looking for some abers to justify your behaviour. what you are receiving is not charm - it's a ploy to get into your knickers so don't fool yourself it's anything else. you're feeling sad over the bust up and Daddy dearest is taking advantage.

[daffy654]

Oops, I appear to have stumbled into an episode of the Jeremy Kyle show......

[sara3]

this is shocking! what an awful man, and what are you doing even considering taking it further?

you'll be hung, drawn and quartered.

[dollypins]

Yes he does have siblings, why?
I don't know if he just wants to get into my knickers. We actually got on really well and he was always making me laugh.
I probably won't 'go there'. I feel bad on my ex's mum as she is a lovely lady and wants to stay in touch with me.

[cazzz1975]

that will be the only thing he wants dolly, he was willing to go behind his wife and sons back just to get his end away. there is no fairytale ending with this slimeball. unfortunately for his poor wife she is married to him, I suppose he will be eyeing up the next girlfriend his son brings home :(

[sara3]

it would be the ultimate betrayal.

[berniecuddles]

trollope comes to mind!!

[dollypins]

bernie - that is very rude indeed. I have kissed him, well kissed him back but nothing more.

[sara3]

you may think it's rude, but that's the impression you're giving..

[cazzz1975]

that will be nothing if you start seeing this creep

[xstitcher]

Carmalee says it all, don't do it.

[ummmm]

I asked because you have to think about how many people beside you ex and his Mother you could hurt. As well as more people wanting to give you a slap.

[carmalee]

would you have liked your boyfriend to have kissed your mother when you were still together?

[dollypins]

carmalee - of course not. Who would like that?
We probably want each other cause we can't :(
I've made the decision (well I kind of knew before you all answered) that I won't fall for his charms because I don't want to be getting myself into this situation. I just hope that I have the same chemistry with someone else one day.

[missnemesis]

///I don't know if he just wants to get into my knickers. We actually got on really well and he was always making me laugh///.

Of course he just wants to get into your knickers and fine well you know it. Don't come on here trying to be all coy acting as if you're some naive wee lassy. You've already responded by kissing him back For Funks Sake! As soon as he gets into yours undies (which I have no doubt he will) he'll not be laughing with you it'll be at you, probably with all his mates down the pub!

[carmalee]

good for you Dollypins - don't weaken - you'll soon be feeling better I'm sure.

[lotsafun]

change your number and forget about him, he is a absolutle sleeze. If he continues to harrass you threaten to tell his son and wife, afterall what do you have to lose now???? you done the right thing in ending your relationship, your young and will meet someone new, but if you take this matter further you are going to get seriously hurt. Walk away and enjoy being single :-)