Single, upset and wanting advice . . .

[dollypins]

Further to my previous post, I have now finished with my boyfriend. I told him that I needed space and wanted to spend more time with friends/going out. However, his father keeps texting me, wanting to meet up. I know I shouldn't but I really want to. I have never felt so turned on as the day he kissed me and I know I want to do more than that. Yes, I know he's a married man etc. So far, I've declined which is making him text me even more.
I am still upset about finishing with my bf but I think it was for the best. Just feeling confused at the moment. Any advice would be good. I can't speak to anyone about this. Thank you

[brenda]

Sorry but you need to get a grip of yourself here. You are on the path to self destruct. Try not to be so pathetic . Think of the hurt to others instead of yourself flor a change.

[askyourgran]

Don't get involved with this man dolly, change your phone number, Find new places to go, and new friends. The Bf is in the past now and his dad should be ashamed of himself, dirty old man.

[boxtops]

dollypins if you have met his wife when you were going out with the son, and you like her, think about her before you even think about this man again. When he was with you he probably lied and said he was down the pub, or at work, or at a footie match - anything but snogging his son's girlfriend. If you don't want to lose all your self-respect, tell him to stop texting you. If he won't, or he threatens to "tell", get there first (I don't know if he would do that but he sounds an unprincipled man) - if there is any sign of trouble, go round and tell his wife that you made a silly mistake but the man won't now leave you alone. He is probably flattered that he can still pull a pretty young girl, you are good for his ego, he's not in love with you. Please see sense - stop it now.

[China Doll]

Just delete his number and deal with the percieved pain. I reckon you'll get over it.

[Prudie]

It's only because it's forbidden fruit that you find it so attractive. Bet you wouldn't have looked at him twice if he was some guy in the strreet.
Nothing good can come of this.

[BeaverDiva]

This man should be so ashamed of himself. You're only 17 by all accounts so, at least you have a slight defence to your actions by blaming your immaturity (but, you do know better otherwise you wouldn't feel bad!). But that's exactly what he's playing on. What a dirty old creepy man he is. Eewww! I really don't get why you'd want to even think about getting in touch with him though - what kind of man would do that to his own son? let alone his wife? I wish you'd come back on here and say you'd got back together with your bf - just to Fosters his father off.

[CAJ1]

Be firm and send your ex-boyfriends father a text telling him to leave you alone, you want nothing more to do with him and then either block his number or change your number.

Everyone on here is right, he does not love you and he will NOT leave his wife, he just wants a quick fumble when it suits him. If it ever got out you would be known as that girl who split up a family because you were mucking about with a married man. All of the family will hate you, all of their friends will know and hate you. People will gossip about you, men will think you're easy. If you think its tough now, it will be a lot, lot tougher if it gets out which it will at some point if you carry on. When it gets out, he will be away from you faster than you can blink, he'll be trying to win his wife back by spouting sh*t to her hoping she'll believe him, you will be forgotten and on your own. Do you really want all this?

I'm not being mean, I'm just telling you what will happen. So, if I were you I would step away and be grateful you weren't caught out, forget about your boyfriend too because you ruined that when you snogged his Dad. Move on

[rowanwitch]

Dollypins when you are 17 you have a lot of hormones and not enough experience to tell yourself to stop and think....been there nearly done that friend's father...don't know what stopped me at the time...I was a plain 16 year old...felt really unattractive and he chased really hard.... made me feel confused and so unsure of my own thoughts and feelings...in the end I didn't do anything... I ran like hell in the other direction... so glad I did....He was a nasty predator...and obviously had no respect for me or his family... you can be worth so much more ..head high walk away and wait for something good to arrive which it will .

[Marijn]

He's a disgusting creep. How can you call someone charming, who's prepared to hurt his son so deeply. When someone has children they should put their children's feelings first, no matter how old the children are. I can't tell you strongly enough that this is a sick, low-life man you're talking about. He's jealous of his son and wants to have what he's son has had. Slimey, nasty piece of wotk.