Confused about her

[searchlight]

I'm married and a woman I've known for almost year is also married. We regularly chat online video and by phone. We have never met but have very strong feelings for each other. Both our other halves know of our friendship but not how close we are. We regularly tell each we love them and text at least once a day most days. I asked her recently does she love me or is she in love with me. She answered that's a secret. Later I wondered if loving someone is the same as being in love with them in the context of a relationship

Do you think her answer of "it's a secret" means she loves me, or she is in love with me or are they both the same

I'd like to hear any opinions, thanks

[Sqad]

daffy.....I didnt say rape had anything to do with sex.

I said that in my experience rape was a common female fantasy.

Quite different.

[Booldawg]

the fantasy is more of a 'controlled rape' though. It borders more on submission.

[daffy654]

You must mix with some very odd women then sqad. I don't know of a single woman who fantasises about being raped, for most of us it is one of our biggest fears.

[Mick-Talbot]

How on earth would you know this sqad?


would you like a garibaldi to go with your tea ?
oh btw, do you fantasise about being raped?

[Sqad]

daffy.....it is NOT reality it is a FANTASY.

One doesn´t fear a fantasy.......does one?

They seem normal women to me.....whatever a NORMAL woman is.

[tamborine]

sqad, ALL women I've known fear rape as the ultimate horror. You're quite wrong to think otherwise.

[pastafreak]

But WHO has fantasies about something that they fear...and abhor?

[Sqad]

tambo......right or wrong.......this is what many woman have told me about their fantasies.

Sorry.

[pastafreak]

So far-not a single woman on here has agreed with you sqad....and we are all quite normal.

[Sqad]

pasta....fantasies are NOT............never mind.

[Sqad]

pasta

<<<<< far-not a single woman on here has agreed with you sqad....and we are all quite normal.<<<<

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[ummmm]

Apparently it is a common fantasy.

[Ankou]

one is a matter of consent, albeit with feigned resistance.

sqad, if you don't know the difference betwen this and rape then it really does say something about you doesn't it ?

[Sqad]

pixi.....don´t be silly.

[Sqad]

ankou....yes.......if you like.

[ummmm]

That's it Ankou...feigned resistance. Couldn't think how to put it....

[pastafreak]

Maybe he asks,pixi.....

[tamborine]

Sqad, Rape of women in Africa is on the news daily, the women beg protection from stronger powerful countries.

The women you claim who have told you different probably fantacise of Lady Chatterley, for a bit of rough.