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What Would You Have Done?
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Very old friend always gave money to my grandchildren for birthdays and Christmas.
Later her daughter had two children. I started to send them money for Christmas and birthdays, even though I never met them.
There was always a problem with them cashing the cheques. Some times they would remain uncashed for over six months. I very rarely received a thank you card.
This week I decided to change my bank account. I went through my cheque book and discovered there were four uncashed cheques for them. One as far back as August 2014.
My bank account switch takes place next Tuesday.
I have written to the mother saying if the cheques are not cashed by Friday they will be lost as that account no longer exists.
Also I have decided to no longer send the children cheques due to financial reasons.
That last bit isn't true but I thought it better to put that rather than I don't think they really want it!
What would you have done?
Incidentally my old friend died last year but that has nothing to do with it really.
Very old friend always gave money to my grandchildren for birthdays and Christmas.
Later her daughter had two children. I started to send them money for Christmas and birthdays, even though I never met them.
There was always a problem with them cashing the cheques. Some times they would remain uncashed for over six months. I very rarely received a thank you card.
This week I decided to change my bank account. I went through my cheque book and discovered there were four uncashed cheques for them. One as far back as August 2014.
My bank account switch takes place next Tuesday.
I have written to the mother saying if the cheques are not cashed by Friday they will be lost as that account no longer exists.
Also I have decided to no longer send the children cheques due to financial reasons.
That last bit isn't true but I thought it better to put that rather than I don't think they really want it!
What would you have done?
Incidentally my old friend died last year but that has nothing to do with it really.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Caran,you are the one doing all the worrying about the situation and it looks as if it doesn't matter to the family at all! Life moves on and you are more sensitive to the link because of your friend,understandably,but, you have no tie to them at all really. Just remember your friend and the good times instead:-)
This woman obviously does not appreciate your generosity. That is abundantly from her actions, so you should cut your losses and give the money to a good cause, of which there are 1000's to choose from.
This issue of no thank-you letters has come up on AB before and it has happened to me. I am fed up with being taken for granted so I now operate a zero tolerance to this sort of rudeness and disdain, and I suggest you do the same.
You owe this woman and her kids nothing.
This issue of no thank-you letters has come up on AB before and it has happened to me. I am fed up with being taken for granted so I now operate a zero tolerance to this sort of rudeness and disdain, and I suggest you do the same.
You owe this woman and her kids nothing.
Just to give it another viewpoint that may make you feel not so hurt- I've many a time not taken cheques, including small premium bond wins, to the bank and they've expired for the simple reason I'm never near a bank in opening hours and have to make a special effort to go. If you do want to still send them something make it a gift voucher or a note. Cheques will die out soon anyway.