What Do I Do?

[abbeylee90]

I'm really struggling financially and don't get paid till next Friday. How do I get money?

[newmodarmy]

I'm not sure what you are suggesting Lankeela.

Are you saying we shouldn't keep offering advice on the issues Abbey raises?

If you are saying only those who are sympathetic should answer then how do you define that?

If you're saying only those offering advice or asking questions that Abbey will be able to take on board should post then can you tell us which posters should respond because as far as I can see most of us have been trying to help for months.

Abbey may not take most of the advice but she clearly keeps asking for it so must want help or attention or an outlet for her frustrations. If she wasn't finding the process helpful in some way surely she would have stopped asking.

 

[abbeylee90]

I'm probably being dramatic but he not been messaging me before work like he did 

[Redhelen72]

Perhaps he is not interested in another date.

After all - you have only had 1 date - he does not owe anything.

[naomi24]

Don't worry, abbey.  You're in touch with him and better to take it slowly.

[abbeylee90]

Rather he tell me or block me

[naomi24]

Tell you what?  If he's still texting you or calling you he doesn't have anything to tell you that you don't want to hear.  Is he still contacting you?

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you've obviously been giving this a lot of thought - but you could be worrying unnecessarily. If you feel you need a relationship where someone, someone new, texts or messages you all the time, this guy could be the wrong one!

 

[abbeylee90]

If he didn't want another as no point staying in touch if that the case. He's had a cold for a week

[naomi24]

He must want to stay in touch.  If he didn't, he wouldn't.  If you're not happy with the way it's going you can always make the decision yourself and ditch him.

[abbeylee90]

I will if he doesn't make effort to go on a date or something next week or makes excuses 

[naomi24]

There you go.  Decision made.  Well done.

[lankeela]

Neveracrossword what I mean is if you keep throwing long 'complicated' answers at Abbey she will switch off and move on to another problem, such as what to wear.  No point keep going over the same thing.  

[Neveracrossword]

Lankeel, was that post meant for me - or for NMA who asked a question?

[lankeela]

Sorry yes, but actually both of you!

[abbeylee90]

When I have got a new job and right one I won't need to askx

[Neveracrossword]

Thanks, Lankeela. I appreciate your point of view, though I don't necessarily agree with it. Some of our points DO seem to be getting through to Abbey, maybe the reiteration has an effect. 

[Hazlinny]

Dating problems apart, Abbey, can you explain how (after starting work at 9 a.m.) you have been able to post to AB for almost an hour - does the person-in-charge not object to this?
Maybe you are on a day off?

[abbeylee90]

Well see he been on pof recently 

[Redhelen72]

Did you make a commitment to each other not to see anyone else at your first and only date?

[abbeylee90]

No but we know he has been online now