Would you be upset or angry if

[tinkerbell23]

Your child decided to go on holiday for christmas or newyear instead of having the usual big family christmas??

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[Eve]

I used to go off for Christmas from when I was about 17 to do residential volunteering at a holiday/respite centre for the disabled. We'd do a massive Christmas week and celebrate New Year at the end of the weekend even though it never was :) Had some very special times there. We don't have a massive family Christmas though and my brother has been off with the inlaws abroad a few times and mum often says she'd rather just go away for Christmas.

[tenrec]

So many people just do Christmas with the relatives because they feel it is their duty. When your children grow up, allow them to fly.

[brenda]

No -- once your children are grown up it really is time to release the reins.

[emmie]

if they are old enough i would say do it. The big Christmas thing is a pain in the derriere.

[DTCwordfan]

I wonder if Vodka is free for Christmas.......

[tonyav]

I did it a couple of times myself, so why would I complain if my grown up kids wanted to do it.

[emmie]

i wouldn't be, it's long been a tradition to ignore the whole shebang.

[daffy654]

I'm quite relieved when my girls have their own plans at Christmas. It means that it will just be me and oh and our son having a nice peaceful dinner with no fuss. I didn't even put my tree up last year.

[dinki]

Why not discuss it with them that way you would really know their feelings, if they hate the idea though do not forget it altogether - prehaps go away for Christmas and be home for new year or something similar.

[smilingcrow]

I would be angry yes. Maybe you could play on the card that you scrificed any amout of happiness in your life so they could exist and all you ask for in return is one day.

[rockyracoon]

Haven't got kids that age yet so can't answer, what I can tell you though is that my mum would be seriously pi$$ed, if one of us was away, not NY, but for Christmas Day. She's lucky that none of us fancy doing it but it'll be handbags at dawn if one if us decides to.

[rockyracoon]

Have to add, it wouldn't stop me doing it, she'd just have to lump it. Thinking about it, I'd have to say, I would be upset if my kids went but I wouldn't let them know it.

[tinkerbell23]

My parents would miss me but would tell me to go and have fun...and same from me to them if they decided to holiday!? Xx

[craft1948]

No, but the daughter was annoyed when I went on a Xmas/New Year cruise.

[rowanwitch]

Can just imagine it.... phew thank heavens we wanted to go on a cruise but we thought you kids would be disappointed...

[shoota]

Sooooo - where are we going Tinks? ;-)

[ummmm]

No....not at all.

[nannybooby]

neither ,my daughter who is married with children is summoned to her inlaws every other xmas. I would rather see them whenits a good time for them over the hols. We see each other most weeks so we dont need to see each other at xmas mothers day etc ,and I want to spare her the discomfort of having to choose and face the wroth of her in laws. Love is letting your child go-when you do you are sure that the love you get back is real not just duty. Smile and say have a good time we can have xmas before you go or when you get back .

[Traci66]

When we had our business the only time we could close and go away was Christmas, so that it what our kids are used to, think we've only had a couple of Christmases at home, so no, I wouldn't be upset, more relieved that once again I'd got out of cooking Christmas dinner.