any step families ???

[zzxxee]

How do you spend your xmas day
my partner lives with me and my two kids 13 and 19
he has 3 older daughters aged 21, 19 17, who all have their own homes
he also has two younger girls aged 10 and 8 who live with his ex
going to be a nightmare how to spend xmas and boxing day
anyone else have thi dilema?

[ummmm]

Luckily Ginge doesn't have any kids...

[Barmaid]

I am trying very hard not to think about it. It is going to be a logistical nightmare!!!!!

[zzxxee]

sorry to remind you barmaid x

[Im a BusyBee]

Why not invite them all to yours then he can be with everybody that matters?

[craft1948]

My daughter is the same age as her step-brother and some bright spark suggested they have a joint 21st birthday do. The atmosphere was, ahem, different. There was my family, my exes family, the stepmother's family, the stepmother's exes family, including all the sets of grandparents. My mate just sat there wetting herself with laughter..............

[zzxxee]

we are down my mums for xmas dinner his older kids wont make the effort and expect dad to do all the travelling and younger kids mother is a bitch from hell so kids comeing over xmas day is a big no no

[NOX]

When I was married my wife's son's father was nowhere in sight, so no problem there and my first ex wife didn't care if her kids lived or died so never visited either- this year I'm visiting my kids at my ex's house in Germany, and although logistically it can be a bit trying I think it's going to be nice... hope so anyway.

[Nosha123]

I managed to get rid of my in-laws 5 years ago - so luckily wont have to spend time with any of them!!!!

Husband never used to even celebrate Xmas til he met my family... Now he loves it!!

[zzxxee]

have a fab time nox x

[Barmaid]

It's OK zzxxee. We'll sort it.

[zzxxee]

think its going to be a case of him going to see his 2 youngest xmas morning and see the older 3 pampered pooches boxing day or something :/

[NOX]

I'm planning to zzxxee, ex wife is now clued up about new bf's 'wonderful surprise' and is very happy about it, so no problems:-)

[zzxxee]

good for you nox :) xx

[karenmac60]

It's not too bad for me but I do feel sorry for my daughter cos everyone wants to see her. She'll be at her dad's in the morning with him and his partner, then they'll have to see partner's mum and her grandparents on dad's side. Then home to me to open presents and possibly see my in laws depending on time. Then round to my parents for dinner and getting to see my sister, BIL, granny, aunts, uncles and cousins. It's a busy day for her and sometimes I think she'd rather just have a quiet one, but everyone else kicks up such a fuss as she's the only grandchild on both sides of the family.

[zzxxee]

karen i wish my family was as small less complicated lol
to be fair i only have 2 kids but my partner has 5 !!!!!!

[karenmac60]

I know. I have it pretty easy really, but my poor daughter has to run about keeping everyone else happy when Xmas is supposed to be about the children. She's the only one yet she has to placate all the adults.

[zzxxee]

she sounds a thoughtful nice girl x

[karenmac60]

She is, and she gets so upset at the thought of upsetting anyone else. I sometimes want to tell her just to tell everyone else to get stuffed and do what she wants :)

[Bobbisox]

I have zeee, but we are very lucky, apart from some other heartache, everything goes on OK
Good Luck