lazy son

[fatpike]

my son is 20 years of age and is painfully lazy , i'm disabled and are awaiting an operation my wife works 50-60 hrs per week he does,nt work his room is a mess if you ask him to do anything he either moans or says he will do it in a minute , he is on the whole a good lad never in trouble ,polite but i worried about him he is18 stone smokes has very low self asteem he's never has a girlfriend i don't want to push him to much as he is the sensitive type but something has to change soon

[gessoo]

Hi Metagirl. I know what you mean. But I really don't care if my son likes an untidy room. It's his room, he has to put up with it. After all, it's the only place in the house where he can do his own thing and I don't have to go in there. Also he has to keep an awful lot of acquired stuff in there which doesn't help. He certainly has respect for the rest of our home (which is his home too at the moment).

Also, some people just love clutter and it doesn't make them stressed at all. I personally hate minimalist houses which are meant to promote calm. They certainly don't make me feel calm - I would feel as if I was in a doctor's waiting room.

And I still maintain you can't make a 20 year old do anything. Anyway, by 20 there should be no need.