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dilema 13 year old daughter being picked on
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My 13 year old daughter is being picked on by the lad that lives next door but is also in her year at school
she wears a sports style bra as she is not comfortable with ones that fasten at the back
the kid next door has been taking the mickey out of her for this and constantly goes on about the size of her bust and how babyish she is for not wearing a " grown " up bra .she is usually resilient, but this is getting her down.
I get on with the lads mother we are not close neighbours but say hello. I just dont know how to approach this and wether to see her first or go up to the school as most of the bullying takes place there. its getting her down quite a bit any suggestions would be appreciated
TIAXX
she wears a sports style bra as she is not comfortable with ones that fasten at the back
the kid next door has been taking the mickey out of her for this and constantly goes on about the size of her bust and how babyish she is for not wearing a " grown " up bra .she is usually resilient, but this is getting her down.
I get on with the lads mother we are not close neighbours but say hello. I just dont know how to approach this and wether to see her first or go up to the school as most of the bullying takes place there. its getting her down quite a bit any suggestions would be appreciated
TIAXX
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Good to hear zzxxee - hope all is well (and stays well!)
14:36 Tue 09th Nov 2010
It's tricky, because sometimes adults getting involved in their children's arguments can sometimes carry on long after the kids have sorted it.
That's the tack to take with this mum - you need her co-operation, so an 'attack' will simply make her defensive by instinct.
Try the 'we're mums together, so we can sort this between ourselves ...' line.
Be calm and polite but firm - maybe her son is not aware that his teasing is causing upset, so his mum can have a quiet word to start with.
If you get no joy with them mum - or the picking carries on, i would have a word with your daughter's teacher and explain the situation, and your action thus far. Schools have plenty of experience with this kind of situation, and can probably sort things out from their side.
Good luck.
That's the tack to take with this mum - you need her co-operation, so an 'attack' will simply make her defensive by instinct.
Try the 'we're mums together, so we can sort this between ourselves ...' line.
Be calm and polite but firm - maybe her son is not aware that his teasing is causing upset, so his mum can have a quiet word to start with.
If you get no joy with them mum - or the picking carries on, i would have a word with your daughter's teacher and explain the situation, and your action thus far. Schools have plenty of experience with this kind of situation, and can probably sort things out from their side.
Good luck.
Mmmm, suppose there is that. It depends on the type of person who his mum is. If it had been my son at that age, bullying a girl over a bra, I would not be happy with him. What goes on at school though, she will not have as much control over.
A word with her won't do any harm - but pick your words carefully - speak to her as a fellow mother, not diss her son.
A word with her won't do any harm - but pick your words carefully - speak to her as a fellow mother, not diss her son.
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