How do you feel about your Mother?

[EcclesCake]

To get away from what should be a warm and fuzzy thread about mothers it has become apparent that many of us do not have warm and fuzzy feelings for our mums.

Mine was a liar who never told me the truth about so many things. I tried many times to get the truth from her but it changed every time she proffered it, consequently I have no faith in a word she ever told me.

It might seem trivial to many of you but not knowing the 'truth' of your heritage and background has a surprising impact on your mind set.

[fairycakes69]

My mum drives me insane and I really don't know why. She is a very forcefull person always right never wrong. I feel sorry for her, I go and see her, as soon as she opens the door I wish I'd never bothered. She is 80 this year and very frail but still has the same effect on me. I feel so guilty about my feelings for her, but they just won't go away.

[DTCwordfan]

Its their ability not to say "I am sorry, got that one wrong." So agree, fairycakes.

[EcclesCake]

Fairycakes, don't feel guilty about your feelings, you are entitled to them. Just hold on to that fact. x

[EcclesCake]

Trigger, I'll have a closer look at that book. It might help with some of the anger, or perhaps I need to wait for some of the anger to subside.

[lylabellablueyes]

My mum is amazing and I simply couldn't live without her in my life. She has got me through so much and for that I feel truly blessed.

So sorry to those people that do t have this opportunity, but it's definitely somehow I dont take for granted x

[marval]

I was very lucky, the three of us had a lovely Mum. I miss her a lot and my Dad.

[EcclesCake]

It's lovely to see the good news stories to balance the not so good experiences.

[bestmum]

MY Mum passed away in 2006 and i miss her dreadfully. We had a bit of difference of opinion a lot of the time, but when my son was stillborn 15 years ago she was a rock. We liked to argue and she always thought her way was right, and sometimes it was. Now its been nearly 5years since she died and i still go to pick the phone up 2 tell her things. I now help with Marie Curie Hospice as that was where she was helped to die peacefully. I will always miss her and love her and hopefully if ther is another place she will be waiting for me.

[karenmac60]

My mum is great -she's always been a very warm and nurturing person who is slightly bonkers in her own small way. I love her to bits and wouldn't change her for the world. Trigger - I hope your daughter has managed to get through today ok, give her one more hug from AB :) xxx

[pastafreak]

My mum died in 1992-she was almost 86.
I always had a good relationship with her-though it was not always smooth. She was very over protective-there were many things I was not encouraged to do such as learn to swim or ride a bike. Both my sister and I developed panic and anxiety problems-possibly due to this over protection. We thought-after she passed away-that she too suffered from them-hence the desire to keep us close.
But in spite of this,I always knew she loved me...and I often wish I had known just how understanding and open minded she was. I did not see this until my last visit with her-my sister was dying in hospital at the time, my husband and I had gone back to the US to see her, and I chose that time to finally tell mum of the abortion that I'd had when first married. I fully expected anger,sadness,criticism-based on her age.
But she was so understanding-it left me feeling I'd underestimated her.I knew then that her love was unconditional. But we as children don't always see the truth of our parents. That visit was the last time I saw her...she died later that year.

[tamborine]

My mum was lovely but she died of a broken heart soon after my dad.

[DaisyNonna]

I loved my mum but she and my dad loved each other to the exclusion of all others.

[daginge]

My my! Quite the can of worms you've opened on Mothering Sunday Eccles! LOL No comment on mine you'll notice! She might be an ABer herself!

[EcclesCake]

That is lovely, you got there in the end Pasta.

[pastafreak]

True Eccles....my eyes were damp as I typed that.
But it's good to express these things-in spite of what some say about 'cans of worms'....

[RATTER15]

My Mum was a very lovely gentle lady, who spent her life doing the same kind of work I now do, I'm very proud to be able to do the same and I know she was very proud of me and the work I do.

[EcclesCake]

daginge - I deliberately opened a can of worms as one was bursting open on a thread full of love and admiration that not everyone shared. Sadly not all of us have the desire to beatify our mothers today and this thread was intended as an opportunity to express our not so conventional feelings.

[China Doll]

My mother can be difficult and we're both very alike and also very different which can cause problems. However, only myself and my sisters are allowed to say bad things about her because we still love her. My mother did the best she could at any given time.

[EcclesCake]

China, it's a funny thing, as much as I might dislike my Mother, only I can trash her memory. I am very uncomfortable if I hear others criticising my mother. I don't think I will dwell on what that probably means.

[China Doll]

Probably best not to. I don't dislike my mother at all... I just think that of all my immediate family members, she is the only one I would have a healthy respect for but wouldn't be friends with if I knew her in any other context. I still like her though and think she's a good person so can imagine it would be confusing if you actively dislike your mother but still feel the way I do about others insulting her.