How do you feel about your Mother?

[EcclesCake]

To get away from what should be a warm and fuzzy thread about mothers it has become apparent that many of us do not have warm and fuzzy feelings for our mums.

Mine was a liar who never told me the truth about so many things. I tried many times to get the truth from her but it changed every time she proffered it, consequently I have no faith in a word she ever told me.

It might seem trivial to many of you but not knowing the 'truth' of your heritage and background has a surprising impact on your mind set.

[EcclesCake]

Aargh, wrong category.

[Buenchico]

I just spotted this and, going by the category, I assumed that it was aimed at AB members who haven't yet left the womb ;-)

[Poor-Alfie]

My mother is long gone.
Never had a cross word with her, she was brilliant.

[mrs.chappie]

My mum had a heart of gold. I consider myself very lucky to have had her for thirty years of my life. She was one in a million (and I don't care how cheesy that sounds).

[DTCwordfan]

Mine was/is simply very selfish - always has been, always will be.

[islasmum]

I miss my mother very much, especially around Mother's Day, and it was her birthday in April as well. She died in 2006 and I still find myself reaching for the phone to tell her something amusing. I was lucky to have her for a mum, and feel sorry for those who have not been as fortunate as I have with my parents.

[wolf63]

My mum could be a great laugh and fun to be with. But she was usually angry and unpredictable. I miss her - she died in 1996 - but it was a relief to get her out of my life and for me to get some control of it.

I have no doubt that she loved my brother and I but I really wish that I had known that as a child.

[EcclesCake]

My life with my mother wasn't all crap there were periods when things were non-confrontational, usually when I had something to give her be it emotional, physical or monetary support.

In the latter years I became an unpleasant reminder of her past life which she had left having reinvented herself with her new husband and his family. I am not bitter about her having established a new life and family, I simply resent her denying her past.

[daffy654]

I was dumped in a children's home aged 3 months, I went home for brief periods of time totalling about 3 years from then until I turned 16. I was then turfed out into the world to fend for myself with no support from anyone. I tried making up with my mum when I became an adult but she lied, manipulated and even stole from me, she also tried to have my children taken from me (multiple times) by telling SS I had abused them, each time it was proved my kids were fine, well looked after and loved very much. She tried the same with my eldest daughter when she had her first child too.

The woman is a diagnosed psychopath and was also diagnosed with munchaussen's (sp?) by proxy when me and my siblings (all 7 of us) were little. She has also been in prison multiple times for fraud and deception offences.

[sara3]

well I didn't starve and I had clothes and a roof over my head.

apart from that? she's selfish, self-centred, she's not interested in me or the kids, and when I let her back into my life she lets us down again.

[albaqwerty]

Mine prevented me from having a relationship with my dad and brothers.
There was nothing evil or bad in them, she just didn't know what to do with a daughter.
So I had a couple of years of a great adult relationship with my dad before he died and a few years with one of my brothers before he too popped his clogs.

They could have been longer years if she had kept her neb out.

[mrs.chappie]

Sara, did your mum turn up for lunch?

[ladybird49]

My mum was a loving , caring & hard working woman , i am proud to of had her as my mum as is the rest of my siblings ( 7 of us )

[sara3]

she did, mrs.c. 20 minutes late. she's such hard work, I don't know why I do it.

well I do, I do it for the kids.

[EcclesCake]

Daffy, there are no words to convey how I feel. As you are (probably) too well aware 'sorry' just doesn't cut it. x

[EcclesCake]

Sara, so many misunderstand material care for emotional care and nurturing!

[boxtops]

Mixed feelings at times about mine, but I miss her a lot - too much to go into. We had a childhood where we knew right from wrong, my dad set boundaries - it doesn't seem to happen these days.

[EcclesCake]

Alba, that's really sad. It is horrible to see how one can manipulate the relationship with others.