Absolutely no sex drive

[Velvetee]

Since hitting my mid thirties, my sex drive has all but diminished and although when in a new relationship, it's quite rampant for a while, the desire soon wanes.

I'm now pregnant, surprisingly so, as in the last year, we haven't exactly been like rabbits. Since becoming pregnant, I have absolutely no interest in sex. My Fiance, hoped that I would turn into a raving Nympho in my second Trimester, as that is what he has read, but there has been no change.

He is a very passionate person and is always up for it, but since I became pregnant, we have had sex 1.5 times and I have no desire to do it again, I can't bear to be touched and find it all very irritating.

Does anyone else feel like I do? Did your sex drive return after having your baby, or did the situation worsen?

[B00]

what a load of b0llocks sqad and fluffyteddy....lol

Despite what you might think, some men, do think with brains rather than their willies.

Just because they're getting less sex, note, we said less, not not at all- it doesn't mean they're going to run off with the next available trollop!!

[ummmm]

Like they say though NOX.....women need to feel loved to want sex and men need sex to feel loved.

I think when you are in a relationship where both parties feel loved, wanted and attractive then sex is not so much a need but more of a want.

Men can go without sex for longer if they have a woman that openly loves them and they get the affection and love that they need.

[tamborine]

sqad617....that's an irresponsible diagnosis from a professional! What if OH returns with VD or worse?

Lust is momentary that a soak in ice water will cure.

[legendis.god]

Half agree boo.

I got more .
But there were times there was none too.
Back pains etc .

I didnt run off , though on reflection i maybe should have.

Different reason tho.

[sqad617]

obNOXious...well you certainly got that off your chest. LOL

leggy...wrong, sorry!

[B00]

Thanks ummm, honestly it's burks like sqad and fluffy that carry on the myth that men only think with their todgers.

[ummmm]

Leggy....I emailed you on 007 one x

[obNOXious]

That's exactly true ummm hence I said that communicaiton is key. To be honest I have quite a high natural sex drive, but if a woman loved me, affectionately, openly and with some obvious enthusiasm then my NEED for sex would be less than if she was a frigid passionless creature who was out of touch with her own feelings and couldn't communicate. I think problems arise most when sex is the only form of affection shown.

[sqad617]

BOO...I thought fluffy was a female.....didn't know they had "todgers" too. ....."Berks"..?????

[B00]

That's what I mean Legend- just because the errr source dried up a bit (again not completely) you didn't run off with someone else did you?

And frankly, any man or woman come to it, that does that is not someone you should be with anyway.

[B00]

sqad- learn to read sweetheart ;-)

I said "burks" not Berks, unless you're a burk from Berkshire I guess...

I also never said that fluffy, the woman who yesterday asked if it was possible she could get pregnant twice (!) was a man.

[ummmm]

I know it's true though BOO.

When I was pregnant I said to my partner 'I am growing a human being and it's hard work.....now leave me alone'

[tamborine]

OAP widow/widowers have lusts too......but a sense of decorum & self-respect keep it under control.

[ummmm]

There is no decorum when it comes to sex ;-)

[sqad617]

"what a load of b0llocks sqad and fluffyteddy.." Boo, you said that today, now you refer to fluffy as yesterday......confused.

tamborine
"sqad617....that's an irresponsible diagnosis from a professional! What if OH returns with VD or worse?" He might and they do...why do you think incidence of STD's has shot up?

[cazzz1975]

so sqad, do you enjoy the services of escorts ect then

[legendis.god]

im a dying breed boo

not fast enough for some tho : 0(

[yinyang]

Sqad - What to men do when they are not getting any from their ' frigid' wives? maybe they come on this site and try desperately to flirt with female users..

I've got two children, have been with my partner for 16 years and can honestly say things are better than they've ever been. Yes there have been dips in my sex drive but during these times my husband has been happy to take care of himself because the rest of our relationship has always been strong and he still got plenty of affection and reassurance so he never felt unloved.It was his support and lack of pressure during these times that lead to me leaping on him again after relatively short periods of not feeling like it. I'm not saying it was always easy for him but the whole relationship was important to him , not just the sex and he knew that if he just went off and got it wherever he could he could have lost his family.

Is that honest enough for you?

[sqad617]

tanborine, ummm and Boo.....I would like you to spend 2days ina Genito-Urinary STD dept and see the types of clients that come in. Your husband/partner could be one of them an you would never know. It is not necessarily for the promiscuous, but the one night only man seems to be at risk.

cazz1975....if need be YES.

[cazzz1975]

I think sqad would prefer you advocate the use of escorts/prostitutes yinyang