i want a baby so bad but my partner of 5 years doesnt

[babsthebunny]

i am 23 and my partner is 31 he have been to gether for 5 years and before we got together him has know that i wanted a baby one day and for about 3 years i have wanted to start trying but he doesnt i really wont one and i just dont know what to do i have tryed everything to make him know everything will be ok and things will be ok in the end but he just doesnt want to know what i have to say


WHAT CAN I DO OR SAY PLEASE HELP

[society]

Are you looking for someone on here to help you make a baby?

[ummmm]

Talk to him. That's all you can do. If he doesn't want what you want then you might have to think about calling it a day and finding someone else.

I know more broody men than I do women at the moment...I'm 37..

[craft1948]

I feel quite broody but I'm single.....

[bednobs]

you have already tried doing/saying. You only have 2 options
1) wait for him to be ready
2) dump him and find someone who does want kids

[babsthebunny]

ture about trying i have tried over and over but i just dont know how to ask him with out him getting funny about it we do have sex but some time ont even once a week is it me or do i need to worry i feel if i leave him i will be having to wait for another person and then by that time i could have had a baby by then lol it doesnt help that i work in maternity nhs

[piggynose]

you should find another bloke who wants kids. i´m totally anti-baby, as my g´friend found out after begging me for almost 2 years. then i had to tell her last xmas that we had to split, painful as it was, but it was for the best.

[China Doll]

If he is like our piggy and absolutely does not want a child then you either accept that or move on. It's one of those make or break deals if there are strong opinions on both sides. You can't make him want a baby, he can't make you not want one. Accept it or move on. (Sounds harsh but I see no other way around it).

[RATTER15]

You are still young, now is the time to be having a baby, don't push him into it or you may find that you are single Mum. Move on, find a partner that would love to have a baby with you.

[redcrx]

i agree, either accept that he may never want a baby, wait longer and see if he ever changes his mind, or split

My husband and i split over this after being together for 11 years.

[zzxxee]

is the situation he never wants a baby full stop????
or that he just doesnt feel ready at the moment?

[ummmm]

It works the other way as well....

[dnaan]

sit him down and ask straight out, if not get rid

[LoftyLottie]

You are young babs and he is hardly old. We were way into our thirties before a baby was thought of and had been together for 11 years, and both didn't want babies at all, but changed our mind. Has he said he never wants a baby or just doesn't want one yet?

Perhaps you are pressurising him too much. Try to keep off the subject for a good while and then bring it up when you are both relaxed and ask him if children are off the cards for ever.

Meanwhile enjoy your life with him and get as much out of life whilst you are young.

[babsthebunny]

thanks all i guess i can wait and see but before we got to gether i told him i wanted babys and get married and then when we got to gether after a while he then siad he didnt want a baby and we should just injoy each other for every and then marrige was one his think we love each other i know that but he know what i wanted and he said he wanted the same and now it has all changed one min it is i want one one day and the next it is we dont need to have one we can live life forever but i will sit on it and see i guess

[gingejbee]

These two "babs" threads are strongly linked, don't you all think?

[bednobs]

perhaps if you sit on it babs, you will get pregnant?

[babsthebunny]

gingejbee i dont understand what u r meaning sorry

[gingejbee]

Well, you have a partner who prefers porn to the real thing and doesn't want to commit to your relationship by having a baby. I'm no Anna Raeburn but are you sure he wants to be with you at all? Sorry, but that's my take on it.

[ummmm]

Ginge...not fair. People watch porn in the best of relationships..

[babsthebunny]

well i dont know??? surely he would leave if he didnt want to be with me!!! i have never stopped him from working away i am sure that he loves me and he does tell me before we go to sleep and when i leave for nights at work and on the phone ans he texts me saing he love me loads /lots /more ect... so i just couldnt say but i do love him