How do you mend a broken heart?

[HJT40]

My daughter has just had her heart broken for the first time. Somehow, she says she managed to push this lad away. She doesn't want to talk about it and doesn't want to think about it.

Any advice for a mum trying to help?

[boxtops]

Just be there for her. She'll feel that she's the only person this has ever happened to, but telling her it's not, and she'll get over it, doesn't help. Let her mourn for a couple of days, then try some distractions. How old is she?

[nannybooby]

be kind say time will help and that you are there for her, he wasnt good enough for her anyay.A hug wiol help too.

[albaqwerty]

aww the poor lass. Just be there for her when she feels the need to talk or wants a hug.

[maggiebee]

Think you just have to be there for her. She'll talk about it when she's ready. Probably won't be the last time and mums just have to be supportive.

[firewatch]

just be there when shes ready to talk and have hot chocolate in the cupboards its a good ice breaker, or perhaps buy some of her favourite comfort food items and let her know they are there for her when she wants themx

[HJT40]

Boxtops, she is 17, I suppose she is lucky to get this far without having one!

Thank you for the answers, I am trying to be there for her, as much as she will let me, which included the purchase of a hamster......!!

I guess it must be normal for me to hurt for her too?

[Cowtipper]

I don't know about girls but I never wanted my family involved in my romantic life at all.

[albaqwerty]

Perfectly normal for you to hurt for her. In fact, you probably hurt more than her. That sounds weird, but as a mother you never stop worrying about them, being happy for them, sad for them and you never stop loving them.

[Meg888]

I'm with Cowtipper - but then I never grew up in a close family unit at all; the only family member I would ever have dared confide in would have been my older sister. But then if you's are lucky enough to have that closeness, then I think lots of hugs & just letting her know you are there for her, she'll come round in her own time and will look back and appreciate all the lovely things you have done/are doing for her, even though at the moment it may not feel like it - you are helping her more than you think ;-)

[LoftyLottie]

All part of a learning curve. I was 17 when it happened to me. She will talk to you when she is ready. Meanwhile just spoil her a bit and don't ever tell her she will get over it because it will just make her angry. It feels like the end of the world. It's a horrible feeling but it does toughen them up - it did me!! I never had another 'broken heart'!

[Old_Geezer]

Tell her it is unlikely to be the last time someone who she thought was "the one" turns out not to be. And that time is a great healer. Aside from that, she doesn't want to talk about it so let her deal with it in her own way. Just let her know you are there if she decides a listening ear might be useful.

[VHG]

You cant mend a broken heart. All you can do is learn to get over it with time.

I am 61 years old but in my late teens I remember going out with a girl, but for various reasons we broke up, and I have regretted it ever since.

I still think about her today.

[fairycakes69]

Just let her know your there when or if she wants to talk. Never say anything bad about the ex, as sometimes they get back together ( though it never seems to last long), try and keep her busy, shopping, going out for lunch and encourage her to go out and see her friends, this is the most important as if she spent a lot of time with the ex she will be feeling very lonely. I've got 2 daughters, 6 and counting broken hearts. Doesn't get an easier, as we don't like to see them upset and knowing we can't make it better.

[HJT40]

VHG, that is so sweet, but sad.

I will not say anything bad about him, because I think he was lovely, but I have come to the age where I think that is a good thing and I would be only too pleased if they did get back together.

In the meantime she has gone out in to town with mates and I am left wondering why I was worried! But I will keep my eye on her and still be ready with the hugs, whenever she wants them.

Thank you all for making me feel better at least!

[northernmonkey]

get some double sided sticky tape try to put it together again the best you can.