Food & Drink1 min ago
Friends? (Part 1)
Well I really don't know what has happened but she's
stopped coming down. I can't think of anything that we
might have said or done to upset her ... except she used to come down every week and we'd take it in turns cooking dinner and then she started making excuses not to come down about 3 months ago like: she has to go to
Birmingham with work and will be back late, or she isn't
well etc., .... but she used to leave not telling me till mid-afternoon Tuesday and then I said if at all possible (cause I know its not always possible) I'd prefer more notice if she wasn't coming down because of organising cooking tea etc. (and we've seen her since and she's been OK - no problems - so I honestly don't think it's this that caused a problem).
Then about a week later she said the next 2-3 months she was on a computer training course and she would be getting fed so we would be better off cooking ourselves and leaving her out of it but she'd still like to come down on a Tuesday night if she could, which I said of course she could.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Now we've only seen her about once in the last 5 weeks
and no idea why... we only saw her about twice in 6 weeks before I said anything about the dinner thing.
She keeps saying this computer course is keeping her
late at work (do you know any computer courses using one new system that take 2-3 months to train on?) or that
she is so busy at work that she's not finishing till 6pm - so why can't she come round at 6.30pm instead of 5.30pm?
I didn't email her to ask her if she was coming down this week and so I've not heard from her at all. Then if I text her she often doesn't bother replying and then says that she ran out of credit on her phone (she is ALWAYS using that as an excuse).
I know I sound really whingey but I feel really hurt and upset because I have been friends with her for about 12 years and honestly don't know what is going on even though I have asked her I had no reply - I'd ask her to her face if only we ever saw her!
Anyway I feel like that counts her out as a babysitter
too??
I know that you don't know my friend or what is going on
in her head but what would you make of this situation?
Not so much a question of what I think about it, more of a, what are you going to do about it?
If you value this person's friendship then you will have to take the initiative and explain how upset and perplexed you are, face to face. Explain it with the same sincerity that you have posted here, and hope for the best.
Anyway she texted me last night to say "Only have 18p on phone and just switched on. Sorry not been down, on training. Just got in, (7.20pm). 4got 2 send u an email. Sorry I've not been around very stress".
So I don't know if I am being paranoid now!!! (But if my hubby thinks something is odd about all this too then I can't be completely off my rocker?)!!!!
well I know I am a nasty suspicious person (that doesn't mean that I think that your Dad is!!), but it does look like she is doing something else that she doesn't want to talk about and needs an alibi for, doesn't it? soooo its either got to be illegal or immoral....
and we're back to landies excellent advice