Something Wrong With Me/my Boyfriend?

[rosekristy]

I know I've been asking this same question over and over but no one has really answered it or gave their advice but anyways, I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for almost three years and we've been physically intimate almost the whole three years but I've been on birth control for a year or two now and I haven't been pregnant once, now, I'm not asking for rude comments about how old we are or that we're too young for a baby and can't support him/her the way he/she should be, but let me tell you this, you don't know me or my love and you have no business telling me that we can't care for a child. My boyfriend and I are very capable of caring for a baby and meeting all the requirements that come along with having one. We understand the HUGE responsibility that comes along with a baby as well and I'm stable enough to take care of a child, as are we both financially stable enough for it as well. So, please, save your rude commentary for someone gives a crap. ANYWAYS, I have stopped the birth control for a little over a week and the following days up until today, we have been having unprotected sex, yes he has 'ejaculated inside of me' but a couple days after I stopped taking BC we had sex and I started having cramps and later on I had light bleeding, the day after I was bleeding heavier, almost like a regular period. (Mind you, the cramps and bleeding started in the same day, right after we had sex, about 3 days after I quit taking BC.) I still don't think I'm pregnant but I'm confused as to why I had cramps and bleeding because I usually don't get my period until around the 24th of each month, which was odd to me. But my boyfriend was hit a lot in the groin area when he was younger by this little girl he went to the bus stop with and we also smoke cigarettes, could him getting hit or us smoking have anything to do with it? Though, the cigarettes, I don't think have a factor in it because plenty of my family members have smoked and have gotten pregnant with no problem.

[Nini74]

sorry, i just couldn't help re-reading your question in the tone of Vicky Pollard......

[jd_1984]

You are very lucky to be financially stable and otherwise confident at raising a child at such a young age. Please dont see this as rude, but dont you want to live your lives a bit first. Travel for instance, which is a far more complicated and costly affair when you have kids. You may not think it now but at 19/17 you still are kids. I thought I was mature at 19, but on reflection it is very relative and only when you push on a bit (I am nearly 30) do you realise that you were not as grown up as you thought. I still dont think I am ready for a child of my own, knowing my personality and the things I still want to acheive personally. But I wish you both the best, one benefit to early parenthood is, you may get your independance back when the two of youe are relatively still young as you will have an 18 year old and still be under the age of 40 by a couple of years. However, you should be comfortable financially and know for absolute certain iot is the right thing or you may regret it and resent each other, with the next 18 years being ver difficult. Who are we to judge.
To answer your question - what is happening to your body is quite normal when you first come of contreception, a false or mimic period can occur out of cycle. I has happened to my partner when she came off the pill mid cycle and lasted 3 days, fairly heavy.

[cassa333]

Ha ha ha This has to be a wind up. What self responsible, financially and emotionally stable woman could possibly think they would get pregnant within a week of coming off of contraception. Unless it was the withdrawal method that is.

All children (even 17 yr olds) think they are capable of a lot of things they aren't. Hell I think I'm capable of doing loads of things and I'm 50 :)


Wait until you have grown up and read a couple of books on the subject.