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A relative has been seperated fom her ex for 5 years and he has been refused access to the children all that time. He now wants access but the children don't want to see him. He is a violent alcoholic. Regardless of all the circumstances, their mother is worried that he may be granted access via a contact centre. We know of cases where the father has been granted access when the children didn't want it. Surely this can't be right, even if the court accepts that he has changed? Could this happen against the childrens' wishes? Some cases indicate that it could and that is totally wrong in my opinion.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.In the interest of fairness access via a contact centre is the way to go. Without knowing the circumstances how can anyone be sure that the kids don't want to see their father because of what the mother has been saying to them.
A neutral access, supervised by social sevices will be able to evaluate the interaction between father and children and recommend any future interaction.
A neutral access, supervised by social sevices will be able to evaluate the interaction between father and children and recommend any future interaction.
Calvados - Whoa, you never mentioned any of that in your OP. Might I suggest that if you're going to post on a Question and Answer site that you include all information that is relevant.
I am not some kind of monster and I believe that the childrens interest always come first.
I am extremely offended that you are accusing me of being "typical".
I don't know anything apart from what you originally posted and you don't know anything at all about me.
I am not some kind of monster and I believe that the childrens interest always come first.
I am extremely offended that you are accusing me of being "typical".
I don't know anything apart from what you originally posted and you don't know anything at all about me.
People assume the mother is influencing them, when it's the memory of him that is the reason they don;t want to see him. They're really frightened that they will have to see him. Their mother has asked them to write to him but they don't want to. They don't want to. Get it? It's not their mother that's influencing them - it's him and his ways. He recently had a conviction for DD. The local social services wrote to their mother and to their school warn them to be on their guard against him.
Ok. Their mother is my daughter. I've asked them to write to him. What we don't want is people saying their mother is influencing them, and I know she isn't. But it seems a typical reponse that she must be. I could give you endless examples of how he has let them down. He doesn't pay anything towrds the upkeep of them, despite the fact that he has his own business and the CSA are chasing him.
It's the court's problem to work out from the evidence of various social workers and, if needed, a psychologist specialising in child psychology, who have seen the children and the parents, what is in the best interests of the children.
They have a lot more experience of these cases than you have. This kind of case is very common. Yours is close to you, which may not make you an objective judge.
They have a lot more experience of these cases than you have. This kind of case is very common. Yours is close to you, which may not make you an objective judge.