Should This Gay Sperm Donor Support This Lesbian Mother's Children?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2544257/A-modern-family-two-young-girls-caught-toxic-fallout-The-lesbian-mother-gay-sperm-donor-war-hands-father.html

It seems to me that the only losers here are the two children, simply because this woman wasn't just happy with her lesbian relationship, she also wanted children as well.

[jomifl]

Sperm donor?

[grasscarp]

I think that he should support the children financially and emotionally because he was not just a sperm donor, he has met them and they know him as their father. Too often the children from these non standard relationships come off badly. There was one high profile example of two fathers separating recently where they took one twin each. So the twins not only lost a parent, they lost each other.

[douglas9401]

Using an apostrophe when naming a child should have set alarm bells ringing.
Selfish, pretentious and when reality bites, grasping.

Just my opinion mind.

[Graham-W]

The only way this sort of thing can work is if the donor is anonymous.
There could be some provision for the offspring to contact the donor when the child reaches majority if both the child and the donor are agreeable.
In this case the donor is known and therefore is know to be the Father. If he didn't want to be a father he should have donated anonymously or not donated at all.

[ludwig]

// Using an apostrophe when naming a child should have set alarm bells ringing. //

I was saying the same thing the other day to my son H&rol,d.

I wouldn't even call him a sperm donor. He's just the father. As Graham says, donors should be anonymous.

[mikey4444]

No !

[naomi24]

No. That wasn't what he agreed to.

[Ken4155]

That's the problem with these "he said, she said" scenarios. Nothing in writing. Donor Beware - if i knew the Latin...............

[joggerjayne]

A donor should be nothing more than that, with no further obligations, otherwise the supply of willing donors will dry up.

But the guy was silly to become involved with the child.

[carrust]

Does a sperm donor have to work a week in hand? :-)

[joggerjayne]

groan

[jno]

I have no idea what was originally agreed or expected. All there is is two conflicting reports. For my money, the one who didn't take the story to the newspapers is more likely to be in the right, but that's just a guess.

[mikey4444]

Why on earth did he ever get involved with the lesbians in the first place ?

Sorry, Women in Sensible Shoes.

[jomifl]

To repeat, 'sperm donor?' how so?

[THEMOTLEY1]

No, not unless all sperm donors are compelled to support the children they father, in which case some of them would have some fairly large monthly outgoings.

[THEMOTLEY1]

jomifl' if you read the link all is explained!

[andy-hughes]

This is a situation fraught with issues, which are now coming home.

The man should have made it clear, preferably in writing, that he was donating his sperm, and that was the beginning and the end of the relationship - and then stuck to it.

I couldn't be bothered to wade through the minutia of the feature, but the gist is clear - two innocent children are suffering because two inadequate individuals decided to play at being parents.

Their sexuality is a minor issue - except for Middle England who will be tutting over their cereals.

[anotheoldgit]

andy-hughes

/// Their sexuality is a minor issue - except for Middle England who will be tutting over their cereals. ///

Why you have chosen to bring Middle England into it only you can tell.

The fact that this involves two couples who are both gay, has a great deal to do with this affair.

For example if the Woman had not been a Lesbian and the man Gay, it is doubtful that this would not be the problem that it is now.

Had they both been heterosexual, why would a woman ask her friend to donate his sperm, but if for some reason the woman's husband could preform the necessary, and they asked their friend to do it for them, then they would not have then expected the friend to support any off springs that came along.

[andy-hughes]

AOG - "Why you have chosen to bring Middle England into it only you can tell."

Delighted - the frisson of homosexuality adds that additional ability simultaniously to feel superior and crticial of other lifestyles, that enhances the ME experience of reading about other people of whose lifestyles they don't approve.

I did not suggest that the sexuality of the people involved was not pertinent, and indeed central to the situation - clearly it is - but that is what makes it newsworthy in the first place.

So for the Mail's core ME readership, this has all ingredients of a good tutting - hence the acreage of newsprint it was accorded in their pages - which as i advised, i could not be bothered to trawl through in its nitpicking entirety.

How did i know it was nitpicking?

I am Mail reader of forty-plus years - I know how they write!

[anotheoldgit]

andy-hughes

/// So for the Mail's core ME readership, this has all ingredients of a good tutting ///

Since you have admitted to the fact that you have been a Mail reader of forty-plus years, must put you firmly amongst those Middle Englanders.

/// i could not be bothered to trawl through in its nitpicking entirety. ///

/// How did i know it was nitpicking? ///

/// I am Mail reader of forty-plus years - I know how they write! ///

Oh so without reading what they have actually printed in this instance you have chosen to criticise them for what you think they have printed?