Boys Jolly To Las Vegas - For A Week??

[Smowball]

Morning guys! Ok, to cut long story short - my hubby sent me a txt yesterday whilst he was at work, saying his friend was going to Las Vegas in October for a week to celebrate his 40th, and could he go? He reckons his friend is paying for everybodys flights and hotels, and all he has to provide is spending money, which I find hard to believe for a start. Oh, and he needed to know by the eve as his friend needed to pay that night! Now apart from the fact that he clearly has know for ages and just wanted to put me on the spot, I cant stand this friend. Every time he sees him something happens, and not something good .he totally changes when he is with this guy, and not in a nice way. His friend is just a hard drinking gobby single bloke and the last person on earth I would imagine being his mate. Hubby met him for a lunchtime drink a few years ago - and wasn't seen for 24 hours! And he wants to go to Vegas for a week?? I really really don't like the whole idea. Your thoughts??

[Smowball]

Yes it would.

[anneasquith]

im sorry smo, but the fact that you have both not discussed this issue appears very strange to me, but quite worrying that you don't want to annoy him.............you deserve much much more respect, take care.

[woofgang]

Smow why are you not dumping this bloke?

[mrs.chappie]

Does he know how much you dislike the idea? If he does, I think I'd tell him that if he went, not to bother coming back.

[Smowball]

Had it out with him last night. He said he has already told mate that he isn't going to go. I asked what reason he gave (ie I would be upset/he had changed his mind etc) and he reckons he told him that " the miserable bitch won't let me go". Technically not true because believe me if he wanted to really go he would just go...........Hmmmmm

[China Doll]

Right... and your response when he said this is how he spoke about to you to his friend was 'if that's how you feel then there's the door' followed by an adult conversation about mutual respect?

[2sp_]

I suppose that he's not going should be a point in his favour, but I kinda think he's missing the point.

[Smowball]

Oh I don't believe he said that for a sec. He's just trying to look clever(stupid sod!). Told him if he wants to go and act single then go ahead, just don't bother coming home. Really think he is just a tad too much hard work........

[Smowball]

Wish we could 'like' replies/ comments as we can on FB....

[mccfluff]

he's trying to make you feel guilty?

[Sqad]

For Christ's sake, it's game set and match to you, so now forget about it.
Stop digging.

[Smowball]

Probably fluff. Told him that if he hadn't told so many lies over the past year then it might have been a story but he's treated me like an idiot, and not to bother denying it. He looked most miffed. Not bothered. Think he really thought I would have agreed!

[2sp_]

I hope he's not going to try to make you feel guilty because he's missing out on this trip?

As for him being too much hard work, only you can really decide if this relationship is worth all the heartache. Personally, I like the easy life. Sometimes when you have to work so hard at a relationship it's not working at all.

xx

[lcg]

no......he should be respectful of your wariness and grow up. imagine the furore if you decided to p*ss off on a girlie holiday to the same place with a trollop who likes drinking. the sulking would last for weeks!

[snags]

Sorry if this sounds harsh but I really cannot understand why you two are still together.

[Sycamore3House]

I have read some of your previous post re you and your hubby/son problems. Your son is screaming at you although silently 'Get rid, Mother'. Your son despite his age knows your relationship is not right and is reacting. You are asking questions that you know the answer to but do not want to face up to it. These dAys women do take control of their lives & they do eventually find relationships that suit them and their children. Why should you as an adult & a mother have to compromise with another adult (although immature) to live an amicable, stress free life. Find someone who you do not have to out so much effort in. It is possible.

[joeluke]

He ASKED you if he could go?

I'd have just told you I was going

[Mamyalynne]

Have you been away Joe? I for one have missed your delicate handling in matters of the heart, you have such a sensitive way with you.

[scorpiojo]

:)

[2sp_]

Joeluke, are you sure you're not Mr Smow??