A Time For Everything

[bl08791]

okay so my world last few ears has revolved around my sister problem is im at have a girlfriend right now. I was on a date this evening and when I got back my sister though I hated do I explain that I just must be able to have adult time but I still love her the same? is it wrong of me to not be at her call all the time? I love her dearly and I want to handle this the best way possible

[Old_Geezer]

I suspect a girlfriend worth having would be accepting of you being contactable in the circumstances. But maybe explain to your sister that you are going to be socialising on a particular evening and to contact before xx hrs only if feeling really concerned ?

[just_George]

May I ask what your sisters problems àre,,just a rough ideato get a better picture. You say you don't have a girlfriend so was this a first date? I think it's good to have your own time, you call it adult time - i wonder how old is your sister?it is right to set aside this time for yourself and your date, but without a bit more info I can't say more

[bl08791]

no we have been dating off and on for a long time, my sister is about to be 13 and has a major amount of fears and shes been through our mother passing being abused and im basically her last family our dads alive but hes not vry caring about her

[just_George]

OK well 13 is difficult even without her others problems. How does she get on with your girlfriend? Could you include her a little,say all have a meal together at home then you and your girlfriend gofor a drink,tell your sister what time you will be home and really stick to it even be early. - youare building trust for the future. I think it would be a good idea to call her when you get to pub or wherever let her know that is were you are and your safe,text her half way through (I say text because just to reassure not a conversation when with girlfriend) make sure you're home slightly early. Over time I hope she will learn it will be OK when you're apart. Remember you are both battling hormones for the next few years