Daughter Hit In The Face At School

[boona]

Hi all, please can anyone help me to word an email for school? My daughter tried to push a boy down the slide at school. No acceptable and she has been told off but the boy who she tried to push turned around and smacked her in the face so hard that he bust her lip and the whole side of her face was hurting. When my daughter was sat with an ice pack the head teacher asked what had happened. My daughter told her and the head teacher raised her eyebrows and said she shouldn't have tried to push him. I want to email the school to make sure the boy has been spoken to as I do not believe that his action was justified and that just because my daughter was wrong does not mean that his behaviour was acceptable.

[naomi24]

spth, //The girl may be inpatient but the boy is violent. Common assault vs abh. //

Stop being dramatic. Kids fight.

[Rockrose]

If she successfully pushed him off the slide it may be you in the headmasters office - seems like it was a knee jerk reaction to your daughters behaviour and best not taken further

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, a 10-year-old boy falling off a slide could also end up with a fractured skull, a broken leg, a fractured shoulder... One 10-year-old, the girl, didn't think through the consequences of someone being pushed off a slide. The other 10-year-old reacted disproportionately - fear, alarm can do that at times.

[spathiphyllum]

It may be dramatic but so is pushing and punching.

And it is common assault vs abh.

[spathiphyllum]

neveracrossword then the playground needs some of that rubber padding they all have. Playgrounds especially at schools are pretty safe. But you are right, those are possible outcomes. Alone with the boy dying from falling off the slide, and the girl dying from one punch to the head. But they are extremes, we only have what actually happened (or from the info we've been given) to discuss.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, you're wandering into your flights of fancy territory again. There would be no question of any of this being classed as common assault or ABH, by the way. (NB Legal advice was sought before I posted.)

[ummmm]

I read it that he was sitting at the top of the slide and she pushed him so he slid to the bottom, as you do on a slide.

[Togo]

Boona. You say that the boy sat at the top of the slide for too long. Was there another child at the bottom making it necessary for him to wait? Your daughter should not be pushing anyone off the top of a slide and aged 10 should know that. She won't do it again I warrant. I cannot blame the boy for reacting. I also feel that you would be better served making quiet and grown up contact with the boy's parents/carer and ensuring that there are no afters. Going head to head with the school is not going to help you, your daughter, or the rest of the pupils.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, we don't even need to consider extremes if we (you?) accepted the fact that 10-year-olds can do daft and/or dangerous things at times. It's part and part of childhood... as I'm sure we all remember.

[boona]

Yes she has been spoken to, the head basically told her what do you expect if you tried to push him down the slide? My daughter has been pushed down herself many times from impatient friends and I have not complained because she has not seriously been hurt. This boy is 3 times her size and is know for his heavy handedness. Plenty of times he has knocked children over (my daughter one of them) whilst he has been barging down the corridor. As someone has already said it worries me too that this is his behavior.

[spathiphyllum]

Neveracrossword i don't doubt that. I just feel the reaction from the boy was OTT and he should be in the same trouble as the girl. Yes she started it, but he escalated that. If it happened when they were older who knows what would have came from it. But kids need to learn, and saying "shouldn't have hit that boy then" isn't teaching anyone a lesson but suppressing a little girls emotions and pain. It also gives the notion what the boy did was acceptable, which it wasn't.

No one is in the right here but no one has acted worse than the other either.

I've said all of my peace on this topic, so i'm going to slide out of the side door whilst i feel i've composed myself well.

[spathiphyllum]

I'm surprised how many Abers are OK with boys hitting 10 year old girls in the face, and bruising a lip. No where is that acceptable. Regarding pushing:

[JJ109]

"my daughter TRIED to push a boy down a slide"

ie she did not succeed in pushing him down it. It was a dangerous action probably, that is, if he wasn't sitting on it ready to go. Therefore if he gave her a backhander (even if he split ger lip) to stop her from causing him problems and danger, remember she is physically attacking him - then it is justified. She has learnt a lesson that her mother should have taught her earlier, don't use violence against others even if in fun or you may have violence used against you in return.

It is not a question of a push v a punch, it is a question of the boy looking after himself after being physically abused and put in danger.

[boona]

Yes he was sat at the top of the slide ready to go down and she put her hand on his back to set him off. He didn't go but instead turned around and wacked her in the face.

[ummmm]

Pushing someone down a slide is not violence.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, please show us where any ABer is 'OK with boys hitting 10-year-old girls in the face' and where it's said to be 'acceptable'. I think you might have misinterpreted, for some reason or another, the responses you've read.

[sherrardk]

I’ve got two 11 year olds and if one of them got smacked in the face for trying to push someone down a slide I’d tell them to suck it up. However, I’d make sure that they knew what they had done was wrong and that being smacked in the face was a disproportionate reaction. If the school has spoken to the boy then I’d leave it there. I’d only take it further if the boy was a frequent offender.

[spathiphyllum]

" I cannot blame the boy for reacting."

Seems to me that is justifying his actions.

I also feel saying the girl shouldn't have pushed the boy is dampening his actions.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, 'I cannot blame the boy for reacting' certainly does not equate with 'it is OK to hit someone in the face' or saying that it's acceptable.

[-Talbot-]

spathiphyllum
I'm surprised how many Abers are OK with boys hitting 10 year old girls in the face, and bruising a lip.



So am I...how many is it?