Daughter Hit In The Face At School

[boona]

Hi all, please can anyone help me to word an email for school? My daughter tried to push a boy down the slide at school. No acceptable and she has been told off but the boy who she tried to push turned around and smacked her in the face so hard that he bust her lip and the whole side of her face was hurting. When my daughter was sat with an ice pack the head teacher asked what had happened. My daughter told her and the head teacher raised her eyebrows and said she shouldn't have tried to push him. I want to email the school to make sure the boy has been spoken to as I do not believe that his action was justified and that just because my daughter was wrong does not mean that his behaviour was acceptable.

[boona]

Sorry meant to add the children are 10yrs old and not infants.

[maggiebee]

Back in the day this would have been treated as normal rough and tumble in the playground. Too much cotton wool around these days for my liking.

[calmck]

Have a meeting with class or head teacher and ask that your child the boy and his parents be present. Hopefully you will have both sides of the story related truthfully

[spathiphyllum]

Regardless if it's rough and tumble, a push does not warrant a punch in the face. The boy escalated the situation. would it be acceptable for that escalation to continue? If your daughter then kicked him in the face would the head teacher say to the boy "you shouldn't have hit her" ? Pathetic i would not let this go, as my daughter being punched in the face by a lad at the age of ten would vex me.

[ummmm]

What Maggie, being hit in the face is rough and tumble?

Arrange a meeting with the head teacher.

[Calicogirl]

My thought is if he was at the top of the slide and was shoved and thought he might fall it could be a kneejerk reaction to turn around and smack someone before he had though it through at all. If they were in a queue at the bottom that's a different matter, but your daughter did instigate it by shoving him first and I'd be more worried about addressing that, because you can bet your life that she won't shove him again now there has been a repercussion for her behaviour from him, but you seem to be seeking redress from that when it might not be necessary.

If this kid is a bully and picking on your daughter, fair enough ask for a meeting but if she often bullies him, then take it she has just learned a valuable life lesson.

There's not really enough detail in your post to know which way to view what happened.

[elliemay1]

I would phone the school secretary and request a meeting with the Head Teacher

[jno]

shoving on the slide may be rough and tumble, though it's dangerous, so you were right to tell her off. But hitting people is not rough and tumble and would have been dealt with sternly in my day. (I obviously didn't live in maggiebee's home town!) Yes, I'd be expressing concern to the head teacher, formally if informally doesn't work.

[spathiphyllum]

Calico you stated

"it could be a kneejerk reaction to turn around and smack someone before he had though it through at all."

But the other day you stated that knee jerk violence is never justified.

[Calicogirl]

Whether it's justified or not it happens Spath, and you can take it as writ that if I'm standing at the top of a slide and you shove me, I'm gonna smack you right in the face. :)

[boona]

Calicogirl
An attempt to push someone down the slide because they were sat at the top for too long is still wrong but this does not mean that he should be able to punch her in the face.

[spathiphyllum]

People with that ideology are dangerous to society. You feel one action justifies another, which you know is wrong.

[spathiphyllum]

And calico, remember what you said on the spanking thread about people hitting? You have just admitted to doing that. So a parent can't punish a kid by spanking them, but you can by hitting them in the face? Odd. I would say the parent has more right to teach that lesson.

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Society-and-Culture/Question1651728.html

[naomi24]

He probably has been spoken to. I can't imagine he wouldn't have been. I wouldn't email, but as others have suggested, I would speak to the head.

[jno]

she was talking about adults, spath

[spathiphyllum]

The thread is about ten year olds in the playground. So talking about adults hitting adults is very confusing.

[Calicogirl]

Oh Spath don't try to twist things, spanking kids is nothing like kids sorting out issues physically amongst themselves.
I would not hit a child but under some circumstances I would have no issues hitting you.

If Boona would be kind enough to supply more information that'd be better than anything, there isn't enough description about circumstances, past history or not etc to make a valid determination, but I'm not one of those people who assumes their child is not the problem.

[spathiphyllum]

to me, it's children being hit, children being present to violence and in your words, "I'm gonna smack you right in the face" and you would do this to 'teach me a lesson' about pushing?


Seems to me like a double standard or a not well thought about principle.

[spathiphyllum]

"I would not hit a child but under some circumstances I would have no issues hitting you. "

For all you know i'm a ten year old. Win yer neck in you're sounding rather hysterically violent.

[ummmm]

For Gods sake Spath. Stop twisting things!