I Love You

[fruitsalad]

Do you think, if these 3 little words are used so freely, they become meaningless, as a child I never heard my parents say they loved me, and I never said it to them, the only time I said it was to my Father on his death bed, I just assumed they loved me, and vice versa, but nowadays it seems parents say it to their kids all the time, does it really need saying quite so often, or should we be able to tell we are loved, without being told, so often?

[bednobs]

i say it at least once a day to my daughter .
It doesnt feel over-used to us

[jno]

are you trying to find reasons for not saying it ? I said it often enough to my boy and it doesn't seem to have caused him any permaneent psychological damage at all.

[Vagus]

If people (family) feel they want to say it then why not?
My dad used to say it every time we left his company, my mum never did but she and I were very, very close and I knew she loved me.
I rarely say it but some of my family do as my dad did. I don’t think it diminishes it, it’s just different people have different ways of showing their feelings.

[maggiebee]

My parents never told me they loved me though I've no doubt that they did. I vowed if I ever had children I would tell them I loved them every day and I do.

[Arksided]

I only say it to my nieces and ma, whilst giving them a hug, saying goodbye. I don't see them often but it is meant with true affection.

When it comes to Brothers... 'catch you late nob-end' the replies often changes ;-) not for a family site to be shared.

[sherrardk]

I tell my kids I love them every night when they go to bed. I also message boy#1 ‘good night, love you’ and ‘good morning’ everyday and he’s in his third year of university. Any one of my kids who is out overnight gets a similar message with xxx’s (different number depending on who it is).

[Mamyalynne]

I don't think those words can be said too often.

My Mother never said them to me, she did say she depended on me, which is not quite the same sentiment.

[tiggerblue10]

My parents never said it to me but then they didn't show me that much affection anyway. I knew they loved me though without needing to say it. I say it to little Tigs quite often and give him lots of hugs. I'm dreading the Kevin & Perry stage!

[AuntPG]

All my children used to say 'goodnight love you' before going to bed but fizzling out when they got to around 12 or 13. Every morning my Oh goes to work gives me a kiss and says ' love you'. Neither of my parents ever said they loved me nor did I say it to them.

[Arksided]

Is little tigg's back with you Tigger? sorry for being a tad nosey.

[hellywelly4]

I always make sure I say it to my children and grandchildren. My parents never said it to me and I never knew whether they did or not. My daughter once said to me that she thought my mother was ‘cold’ which was odd because she idolised my daughter. Families can be very strange. I’m sure it has affected me throughout my life.

[tiggerblue10]

He wasn't away, Arky. His dad came here for the weekend. Easier than driving back and forth from Essex like he used to before I moved house :o)

[pat2604]

I think it is meaningless when it's said automatically and too often Three words with so much meaning. I would rather be told infrequently and with meaning than everytime hubby leaves the house or ends a phone call to me. If I say it then it's with meaning. I tell the dog I love her all the time ;o)

[pat2604]

To me a spontaneous hug means far more than 'I love you'as a habit. I got loads of hugs as a child, but not many love yous from my parents and grandparents, but I felt very loved and secure in the knowledge I was loved.

[AuntPG]

pat - I know my OH means it every time he says it. ;-) He comes from a family that has never said the 'love' word, never hugged their kids or even encouraged them. So for me its very special -even if it is at 6 am in the morning when I'm still half asleep in bed , and even after 30 years of marriage .

[Arksided]

Tigger, Ahh I see, I misinterpreted, hope the young fella had a good time. Xx

[barry1010]

My woke and I are friendly with another couple we’ve known for around 5 years but they aren’t close friends. Whenever we part company or end a phone call the wife always says ‘bye, love you’ which leaves us bemused and a bit uncomfortable. I tell my wife and children I love them often but certainly not people I don’t love. I think it is a habit of hers, said without thinking or meaning.

[calmck]

Every night when we go to bed we say it

[pat2604]

Barry, I presume your Woke is predictive text!

[piggynose]

Your woke?