Could She Be Making Excuses?

[abbeyleigh]

So me and my friends planned to do a bottomless brunch for my birthday next Saturday now ones saying she can't go as she has to pay £500 this month and get her mum birthday present. The brunch is £20 since we said about she said she can't afford to go out and don't want to go to somewhere that requires deposits as she not reliable with money. She also said in a message if she goes out for my birthday and spends all her money she won't be happy.

[JJ109]

She doesn't want to go for whatever reason. Accept it and don't try and think too much.

Her finances maybe stretched, she may not like where you are going, she may not like another of your friends that is going, she maybe wants to go someone else at the same time.....whatever, she doesn't want to go.

She could be making excuses or she could be telling the truth, whatever it is just take it on face value.

[bobbinwales]

Would you be happy to pay the £20 for her.... that would test whether she's making excuses.
If she's a real friend you'd trust her.
But if she not that important to you that you wouldnt pay then dont worry about what her reasons is. Just enjoy it

[abbeyleigh]

She lives at home and works full time why should I pay its my birthday

[barry1010]

She doesn't want to go, don't fall out over it.

[abbeyleigh]

Easier not to invite her next time

[barry1010]

Now that would be silly. She's your friend, be gracious. Be the grown up that you are

[barry1010]

What is a bottomless brunch?

[abbeyleigh]

She's not reliable that why I think she wants to go somewhere that don't require a deposit

[abbeyleigh]

https://grandbarandkitchen.com/

[Redhelen72]

She has given you notice that she doesn’t want to go.
Have the good grace to accept it.
If you wanted her there that much and if her friendship meant that much to you, pay it for her.
I certainly would.

[rowanwitch]

I agree I think she just doesn't want to go.... It may have nothing to do with the money but at least she has told you in advance.

[scorpiojo]

You're having a bottomless brunch, afternoon tea, and a night out?

[abbeyleigh]

I asked end of march

[1ozzy]

Your grieving is awesome Abbey.
Try making a decision for yourself one day

[Redhelen72]

It doesn’t matter when you asked Abbey.
Priorities change and this friend may have different priorities now.

[douglas9401]

How does one sit down at a bottomless brunch?

[bednobs]

dunno what u are reading but that brunch isnt £20. Only 1 deposit required too

[Maydup]

She’s concerned about money so thank her for letting you know and hope you can see her for a coffee sometime instead.

I went out with friends recently and one was so hard up that she was drinking tap water. She wouldn’t take a drink off any of us though, in case she felt she had to buy a round. It’s real, people can’t afford to go out so much anymore.

[Maydup]

One drink leads to another and need thing you know you’ve spent £50

[lankeela]

Maybe she is embarrassed at having no money so it was easier to cancel. Or maybe she just doesn't want to go out with you. You have said before you don't have many friends. If this is your attitude I am not surprised.