Do I Message Him Or Wait For Him?

[abbeylee90]

I meant to be going on my date on Saturday after bottomless brunch but do I message or wait for him?

[naomi24]

That's fine.  Just agree a definite time.  If you're not finished 'brunching' when that time comes, just leave anyway.

[douglas9401]

Maybe he's only interested in someone with a bottom.

[newmodarmy]

From his point of view it's a cheap date for him if you've been eating and drinking for hours beforehand.

You hardly know him yet so make sure you're sober when you meet.

[Prudie]

Never chase a man.

[naomi24]

She's not chasing him.  She's clarifying arrangements.

[davebro3]

//You hardly know him yet so make sure you're sober when you meet.//

How will that be possible? LOL

[Prudie]

Texting and "do I message" are chasing in my book. If he wants to see abbey Saturday night he will make the effort to arrange it.

I really respect some of the ABers who support this poster however, being more on the outside looking in, she is treated like a 16 year old venturing into the world.

[davebro3]

abbey - this is a REALLY bad idea. Going to a function where you are pretty sure to get drunk then going on a date with someone you haven't yet met. Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me even if the bloke is a genuine caring individual (which you have no idea about).

[Neveracrossword]

Davebro, Abbey has been in touch with the guy for a while, and they went out (for 'coffee drinks') last week. 

[abbeylee90]

Obviously I can't cancel brunch I had planned ages ago 

[naomi24]

Abbey, if you're not sure, just cancel the date with him and arrange another day and time.  

[smurfchops]

Abbey, do NOT get drunk at the bottomless brunch.  Send a very short text "what time shall we meet ?" And if he does not reply...  he has your number...  DO NOT contact him again.  Do NOT chase him or keep bothering him.  If he wants to see you, he can call you back. 

[naomi24]

I might be wrong but I'm getting the impression that Abbey wants to keep all her options for Saturday open.  She says she might not feel like going for a drink with him after 'brunching' all afternoon, but won't cancel just in case she does feel like going for a drink.  The fairest thing would be to cancel the date - and if you're at a loose end on Saturday night, Abbey, so be it. 

[abbeylee90]

No I want to see him just not sure about going for a drink 

[naomi24]

Have a soft drink.  You don't have to drink more alcohol.

[Ringlet]

Going on a first date immediately after a bottomless brunch sounds like a recipe for disaster.  

Better to arrange the date for a day and time when you are completely sober and in full control.  

[Redhelen72]

its a second date ringlet

[Hazlinny]

Just been reading this ...  apart from the meeting time, it does not seem that you know where the meeting-up place is, Abbey.  He would have to let you know.

[abbeylee90]

Haven't heard from him 

[newmodarmy]

It was all a bit vague. Aybe he's waiting to hear from you about what time you'll finish your brunch.

It's better to make proper arrangements next time: where to meet, exactly what time.